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Saw difficult child in inpatient today...
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 516740"><p>{{{hugs}}}</p><p></p><p></p><p>been there done that with my "at home" teenage boys. Unfortunately, my distress & aggravation with difficult child means I have much less tolerance with my younger boys. It is what it is. And my younger boy (15) has some of the same mannerisms as difficult child (they are brothers!) So when he gets frustrated and exhibits them - my alarm bells go off. </p><p></p><p>I've been pretty upfront with them. "Your brother has me at the end of my rope. Which means I am extra sensitive and may not always be fair. And - because I am am constantly wondering what we could have done to keep him on the straight and narrow - I am going to be a lot less lenient with you. I am sorry I can't cut you more slack. I know it's unfair but I can't help it. And you know how much anguish he has put us all through - so I would really appreciate it if you could cut me some slack and be good boys. I know you're not him and it's OK to screw up sometimes - but we all need to do our best. I'll try - so you try - K?"</p><p></p><p>Maybe I overshare with them and maybe I should be able to draw a cleaner line between him and them. But I can't and I feel that the least I can do is acknowledge it. And I do try to extend privileges to them that their brother did not have - because they have earned them. Esp my pc17 who has been really well behaved & gets good grades. And once in a while I remind him that he gets special privileges (that his older bro did not) because I notice and appreciate how well he is doing.</p><p></p><p>Winging it...</p><p></p><p>hope it works.</p><p></p><p>with you board sister!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 516740"] {{{hugs}}} been there done that with my "at home" teenage boys. Unfortunately, my distress & aggravation with difficult child means I have much less tolerance with my younger boys. It is what it is. And my younger boy (15) has some of the same mannerisms as difficult child (they are brothers!) So when he gets frustrated and exhibits them - my alarm bells go off. I've been pretty upfront with them. "Your brother has me at the end of my rope. Which means I am extra sensitive and may not always be fair. And - because I am am constantly wondering what we could have done to keep him on the straight and narrow - I am going to be a lot less lenient with you. I am sorry I can't cut you more slack. I know it's unfair but I can't help it. And you know how much anguish he has put us all through - so I would really appreciate it if you could cut me some slack and be good boys. I know you're not him and it's OK to screw up sometimes - but we all need to do our best. I'll try - so you try - K?" Maybe I overshare with them and maybe I should be able to draw a cleaner line between him and them. But I can't and I feel that the least I can do is acknowledge it. And I do try to extend privileges to them that their brother did not have - because they have earned them. Esp my pc17 who has been really well behaved & gets good grades. And once in a while I remind him that he gets special privileges (that his older bro did not) because I notice and appreciate how well he is doing. Winging it... hope it works. with you board sister! [/QUOTE]
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