difficult child texted the other day and asked if she could come and pick up her summer clothes. I texted back that she had very little here and that I had given her two bags of summer clothes last month but she said there were things in her closet she wanted. (Obviously she didn't know that I already went through all her things and threw all the trashy stuffy out and gave a lot to the goodwill).
So she came over and spent a total of perhaps 5 minutes. We confronted her about her job and at first she lied and said she still had it. I reminded her that easy child takes her dog to that clinic so we know. She told us she got fired for swiping her care credit card and taking mony out of the drawer (stealing). She didn't think it was stealing???????? They told her it was!!!!!!!!! I still don't think she thinks it was wrong. She said she got a job as a hostess in a bar downtown for minimum wage two nights. That won't even cover the cost of gas.
husband asked how she was paying her rent and she said she talked to the landlord and he said she could stay there as long as she needed and can pay him back and he gave her some numbers to call for housing assistance. I don't believe that for a minute. We never did get to ask her if the gas and electric and cable company were also going to let her keep their services as long as she wanted. I asked her is she still thought using drugs was not causing problems in her life and she said they were not. We asked her what kind of drugs she was using and she said just pot. We told her we knew that was a lie. She said she is having fun and loves this life.
She grabbed some things in her closet and left without saying a word.
TL I read what you wrote on the other thread and I really think she does love this life. She is not yet destitute. She still has her car and apartment and is able to steal enough to get by I guess and the drugs and alcohol are plentiful. She did not look sad or wanting anything. The pictures and comments she puts on fb tell a story of fun fun fun, they don't look fake. There may come a time when she is miserable but it isn't yet. difficult child has always loved living the life of a free spirit and she does not care about the comforts of home or life as long as she can do what she wants.
On a good note, it was husband and my anniversary yesterday. We went to a graduation party for our nephew first and then on to a nice dinner at Hyde Park Grill. We invited easy child and had a lovely time. None of the family asked about difficult child and quite honestly we are all accepting and actually feeling more comfortable with her not around.
Nancy
So she came over and spent a total of perhaps 5 minutes. We confronted her about her job and at first she lied and said she still had it. I reminded her that easy child takes her dog to that clinic so we know. She told us she got fired for swiping her care credit card and taking mony out of the drawer (stealing). She didn't think it was stealing???????? They told her it was!!!!!!!!! I still don't think she thinks it was wrong. She said she got a job as a hostess in a bar downtown for minimum wage two nights. That won't even cover the cost of gas.
husband asked how she was paying her rent and she said she talked to the landlord and he said she could stay there as long as she needed and can pay him back and he gave her some numbers to call for housing assistance. I don't believe that for a minute. We never did get to ask her if the gas and electric and cable company were also going to let her keep their services as long as she wanted. I asked her is she still thought using drugs was not causing problems in her life and she said they were not. We asked her what kind of drugs she was using and she said just pot. We told her we knew that was a lie. She said she is having fun and loves this life.
She grabbed some things in her closet and left without saying a word.
TL I read what you wrote on the other thread and I really think she does love this life. She is not yet destitute. She still has her car and apartment and is able to steal enough to get by I guess and the drugs and alcohol are plentiful. She did not look sad or wanting anything. The pictures and comments she puts on fb tell a story of fun fun fun, they don't look fake. There may come a time when she is miserable but it isn't yet. difficult child has always loved living the life of a free spirit and she does not care about the comforts of home or life as long as she can do what she wants.
On a good note, it was husband and my anniversary yesterday. We went to a graduation party for our nephew first and then on to a nice dinner at Hyde Park Grill. We invited easy child and had a lovely time. None of the family asked about difficult child and quite honestly we are all accepting and actually feeling more comfortable with her not around.
Nancy
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