Wee difficult child wanted to see grandma last night, so we visited exMIL's. Had a very nice long visit. Touched on the topic of Scarecrow just briefly. ExMIL had her church directory out and I recalled that I had never told her that Scarecrow's request to have family pictures taken with wee difficult child was made the week after said pictures were offered. So I told exMIL (otherwise, I'm on a Scarecrow diet - I've told everyone I don't want to know anything more about her unless it directly relates to difficult child). ExMIL figures the same as I did...most likely it was not an honest mistake, most likely it was her attempt to manipulate. ExMIL also told me that Scarecrow's new tactic is to boycott the whole family. Seems Scarecrow has given them the ultimatum - so long as I am welcome and won't be turned away if I show up there, she won't set foot in their house. She has even been in the car with DEX when he has gone to visit his mother and Scarecrow will sit in the car the entire time - be it 2 minutes or 2 hours. And this is not exMIL's speculation - Scarecrow outright told them this! While I find it, at the same time, disturbing and amusing, I also have to wonder what kind of logic has lead this woman to put ME at the root of all the troubles she perceives there to be...because up til she came along, DEX and I happily co-existed at family functions without ever having an issue. Heck, last year at Christmas, I obliged their request to take him to exMIL's to receive gifts from them. They were present. I was present. All was well. And now I am the antichrist. Whatever.