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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 677681" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Without having never been evaluated, how does he or you know what is really wrong with him? Anyway...</p><p></p><p>Look. Every time our kids drive they could get killed in a car accident. What I'm trying to say is, we never know for sure if our adult kids will chose safe behavior. You really can not babysit a man for life. There may be a group home he can move to to give you some relief. I do know we have a few in our small city...I didn't even know about them. If he is so sick, he can't move from his bedroom, do anything, or even speak to you, in my opinion I would insist, again as a condition of living at home, he get a disability assessment. If he is disabled mentally he will be offered many services plus SSI and a caseworker and have options about where to live and get Medicare and probably also Medicaid. Right now, undiagnosed by a professional (this means a psychiatrist or neuropsychologist, not a therapist), he has nothing to help him get better. Disability will probably tell him who he has to see and test him intensively. You can't do it all. You don't have the access.</p><p></p><p>You need to see that therapist tomorrow for sure and learn to live your own life. This is no way to live. You in my opinion should not be saddled to babysit for your son, even though he has depression. And your son needs to go to Disability (usually it is called Aging and Disabilities, at least where I live) and get his own services so that YOU can get a break and not get sick or kill yourself by trying to care for somebody who won't allow you to help. He needs to find himself out-of-home resources as none of us can live forever too.He is a man now. He needs to take charge of his health problems.</p><p></p><p>If he EVER threatens suicide, don't try to talk him out of it. Just call 911. You may find that his threat is a manipulation to get you to feel sorry for him or do things for him. I tried the 911 thing and never heard the word "suicide" again. My own son was going through hello with a custody battle for his beloved son and often felt he was losing the battle (he did not). But during that year I heard "suicide" so much that I finally started calling 911 whenever he said the word. He never tried to do it. In fact he learned to deal with his stress in better ways and is doing great now that the stress is over. I realize your son has a mental health issue beyond just a bad situation, but many people have depression and it is very treatable.</p><p></p><p>Of course, this is JMO. Take what you like and leave the rest.</p><p>Hugs, hugs and more hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 677681, member: 1550"] Without having never been evaluated, how does he or you know what is really wrong with him? Anyway... Look. Every time our kids drive they could get killed in a car accident. What I'm trying to say is, we never know for sure if our adult kids will chose safe behavior. You really can not babysit a man for life. There may be a group home he can move to to give you some relief. I do know we have a few in our small city...I didn't even know about them. If he is so sick, he can't move from his bedroom, do anything, or even speak to you, in my opinion I would insist, again as a condition of living at home, he get a disability assessment. If he is disabled mentally he will be offered many services plus SSI and a caseworker and have options about where to live and get Medicare and probably also Medicaid. Right now, undiagnosed by a professional (this means a psychiatrist or neuropsychologist, not a therapist), he has nothing to help him get better. Disability will probably tell him who he has to see and test him intensively. You can't do it all. You don't have the access. You need to see that therapist tomorrow for sure and learn to live your own life. This is no way to live. You in my opinion should not be saddled to babysit for your son, even though he has depression. And your son needs to go to Disability (usually it is called Aging and Disabilities, at least where I live) and get his own services so that YOU can get a break and not get sick or kill yourself by trying to care for somebody who won't allow you to help. He needs to find himself out-of-home resources as none of us can live forever too.He is a man now. He needs to take charge of his health problems. If he EVER threatens suicide, don't try to talk him out of it. Just call 911. You may find that his threat is a manipulation to get you to feel sorry for him or do things for him. I tried the 911 thing and never heard the word "suicide" again. My own son was going through hello with a custody battle for his beloved son and often felt he was losing the battle (he did not). But during that year I heard "suicide" so much that I finally started calling 911 whenever he said the word. He never tried to do it. In fact he learned to deal with his stress in better ways and is doing great now that the stress is over. I realize your son has a mental health issue beyond just a bad situation, but many people have depression and it is very treatable. Of course, this is JMO. Take what you like and leave the rest. Hugs, hugs and more hugs. [/QUOTE]
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