hi i forgot to post i'm crazy posting as of late........see i go away for a while then return with so so much to share anyway since taking everyone's advice here with difficult child's school situation ie. ms. herbal teacher (yea i know i used herbal to get her to bed past two nights) but i'm still going to keep that name for her because she was nasty to me twice so she's earned it , then fighting iep, telling me i'm responsible for difficult child not forgetting hw books in class, etc. its' all in my posts. Since I began documenting and providing school with-letter every a.m. difficult child doesn't get in on time and i've cut all verbal with them, guess what my phone hasn't rung 5 times ea. morning anymore at all. they have officially stopped harrassing me for time being. yea me! i'm enjoying it while it lasts. I also provided teacher with a note, typed ofcourse dated and I kept copy for my file i'm learning gotta handle this like my business that negative comments made on tests grade papers is unnecessary, and that due to difficult child forgetting hw books almost every night it is contributing to her bad grades, hence guess what we need an iep that's a provisional thing, and that their not letting difficult child head to nurse at all is creating more anxiety in her, and a few other things. just all documented proof that their creating a level of anxiety in her at this point. i'm sure ms. herbal appreciated that greatly. just as i appreciated her two phone calls telling me i don't know how to handle my daughter. so proof, proof, proof i'm going to barrage them with so much documentation when this all begins their not going to know what to do other than to fold eventually and give her what she needs. i realized yesterday being new to the area that difficult child after next year heads to middle school.........wow 8 periods a day alone in hallway trying Occupational Therapist (OT) find various rooms, locker, sorry i am hopeful that we wil grow through this yet there is no way that difficult child is going to be able to handle that how she is right now. if an iep is in place they'll have to review before than and have her set up appropriately or she'll lose it. thanks again!!!