difficult child started Grade 1 on Tuesday. I've been highly anxious all week. For those that might remember, she had a bad bad time with school in June of last year. She was highly anxious and just couldn't cope. She refused to go to school for several weeks in June. Tuesday started okay...she seemed to have an okay day. Wednesday, the teacher informed me after school that she had pushed a teacher for telling her too often to eat her ham sandwich and that if she didnt want to eat it int he classroom, she could eat it in the office. I had a good long talk with the VP yesterday who seemed to understand the neurological problems that come with Epilepsy. We talked about her IEP and an aide and I was optimistic. The teacher called me today CRYING saying that difficult child was hitting a teacher for some reason. I was already so distraught when I heard this, I barely heard the rest. Then she said that she was pinching kids and just be very defiant, aggressive and non compliant about everything. I couldnt beleive that this teacher called me crying that she didnt know what to do and that she would not accept hitting or pinching of other students and I needed to help with strategies. I think this teacher needs to get a grip, but that is another story and problem. There was no principal or viceprincipal around to talk to today either. I know they are having an IEP set up for her and an aide, but the aide is only with her maybe 1 or 2 hours of the day, and difficult child still does not even listen to the aide. This is not enough. The childrens hospital offered to speak with the school directly to give them strategies etc about helping. What am I going to do? Yesterday, I was feeling more optimistic and after this call, I feel like throwing in the towel and burying my head in the sand. Is it too premature to say that my child cannot cope in the mainstream school? I know she cannot cope in a mainstream class, but I question whether she can cope even with an aide. By the way, she is on clonidine but a very low dose. 0.025mg at night to try and help with the aggressiveness, hyperness and impulsivity, but I don't think it is working, clearly. I don't even want to send her back to school on Monday. I feel like she has already been shunned by the teachers and the kids in her class. Please help with any advice you might have.