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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 432560" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>Does your son have an IEP?</p><p></p><p>If not, then I would say that this cries out for him to be considered eligible for one due to the need for behavioral interventions. Getting to school without being traumatized or traumatizing others is part of the learning process.</p><p></p><p>Assuming you are in the US, selling your house may not happen as fast or as easily as you hope. Especially if a prospective buyer finds out about the neighborhood harassment issues. Which, by the way, you might be legally required to disclose to any potential buyer. Read the fine print in your contract with your real estate broker if you are using one and see if this is addressed. Or ask the RE person for any written information he/she has on full disclosure requirements in your area. You can always choose not to disclose this info but then you run the risk of being sued by new owners if they also get harassed and there was a legal requirement that you disclose the information.</p><p></p><p>So it is a difficult call to make.</p><p></p><p>I think you should definitely document the injuries. I think you should make sure there was a police report filed and get a copy of it to see what it says about what happened. If no report was filed or the report substantially differs from what you believe happened then I would make a report right away while your son's injuries are still apparent or meet with someone from the police department to ask how to have additional information included/added.</p><p></p><p>If you didn't take your son to the doctor I would do that now. You want documentation of the assault by third parties. And if your doctor doesn't know about this situation he/she needs to know in my opinion. It's possible the doctor may be a helpful advocate by writing letters to substantiate your requests for behavioral interventions to be put in place.</p><p></p><p>I would go down and make the school district let you examine your son's permanent file so you know what's in it. I'm not sure if you can get a copy of it but you should be able to challenge information in it (like a write up of this incident that fails to make note of your son's disabilities as a contributing factor) by writing up your own version and insisting it be added to the permanent file.</p><p></p><p>And at the minimum I would write a letter to the district stating your position that this incident is a manifestation of your son's disabilities and asking for an IEP meeting to re-consider placement or, if there is no IEP, asking that your son be evaluated for special education services since these behaviors are clearly interfering with his and other children's ability to benefit from a free and appropriate public education (FAPE in Special Education speak). I do not believe that these problems exist in isolation on the bus ride to school. I pretty much guarantee that there is more bullying happening on school grounds.</p><p></p><p>Given your difficult child's age and the school district's handling of this incident - if you don't take action to make the school district address this you are in for really big trouble in high school. Everyone is bigger and stronger but are the kids are even more volatile. You do not want your son charged with a serious assault or to be the victim of a serious assault because of verbal or physical bullying like this incident. It is a recipe for disaster in my experience.</p><p></p><p>When/if you change districts your son's suspension will be staring the new district in the face as a statistic on his attendance record. They may make decisions about your son or form opinions based on that isolated fact without bothering to ask for more details or because the old school district fails to provide those details. Whatever's in that permanent file is what they will see so you really need to know what's in it.</p><p></p><p>I believe the new school district will be required to act on your request for Special Education assessment but you might need to send them a copy of the request and state that you still want this done by the new district. An IEP meeting must be convened within 30 days of his transfer to a new district if he already has an IEP in place.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 432560, member: 11920"] Does your son have an IEP? If not, then I would say that this cries out for him to be considered eligible for one due to the need for behavioral interventions. Getting to school without being traumatized or traumatizing others is part of the learning process. Assuming you are in the US, selling your house may not happen as fast or as easily as you hope. Especially if a prospective buyer finds out about the neighborhood harassment issues. Which, by the way, you might be legally required to disclose to any potential buyer. Read the fine print in your contract with your real estate broker if you are using one and see if this is addressed. Or ask the RE person for any written information he/she has on full disclosure requirements in your area. You can always choose not to disclose this info but then you run the risk of being sued by new owners if they also get harassed and there was a legal requirement that you disclose the information. So it is a difficult call to make. I think you should definitely document the injuries. I think you should make sure there was a police report filed and get a copy of it to see what it says about what happened. If no report was filed or the report substantially differs from what you believe happened then I would make a report right away while your son's injuries are still apparent or meet with someone from the police department to ask how to have additional information included/added. If you didn't take your son to the doctor I would do that now. You want documentation of the assault by third parties. And if your doctor doesn't know about this situation he/she needs to know in my opinion. It's possible the doctor may be a helpful advocate by writing letters to substantiate your requests for behavioral interventions to be put in place. I would go down and make the school district let you examine your son's permanent file so you know what's in it. I'm not sure if you can get a copy of it but you should be able to challenge information in it (like a write up of this incident that fails to make note of your son's disabilities as a contributing factor) by writing up your own version and insisting it be added to the permanent file. And at the minimum I would write a letter to the district stating your position that this incident is a manifestation of your son's disabilities and asking for an IEP meeting to re-consider placement or, if there is no IEP, asking that your son be evaluated for special education services since these behaviors are clearly interfering with his and other children's ability to benefit from a free and appropriate public education (FAPE in Special Education speak). I do not believe that these problems exist in isolation on the bus ride to school. I pretty much guarantee that there is more bullying happening on school grounds. Given your difficult child's age and the school district's handling of this incident - if you don't take action to make the school district address this you are in for really big trouble in high school. Everyone is bigger and stronger but are the kids are even more volatile. You do not want your son charged with a serious assault or to be the victim of a serious assault because of verbal or physical bullying like this incident. It is a recipe for disaster in my experience. When/if you change districts your son's suspension will be staring the new district in the face as a statistic on his attendance record. They may make decisions about your son or form opinions based on that isolated fact without bothering to ask for more details or because the old school district fails to provide those details. Whatever's in that permanent file is what they will see so you really need to know what's in it. I believe the new school district will be required to act on your request for Special Education assessment but you might need to send them a copy of the request and state that you still want this done by the new district. An IEP meeting must be convened within 30 days of his transfer to a new district if he already has an IEP in place. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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