good morning, so, difficult child went in today to school as we had planned. she hasn't been in school all year due to 2 hospitalizations most of you know about. So, the plan I devised was she would spend a day just walking around the bldg. with-school pyschologist to re adjust to environment, and than work our way up from there. There is only a few days of school left, and due to school dragging their feet difficult child got back in too late. Long story short, she was ofcourse anxious on the way there, it's right down the road. Which is perfectly normal for a kid with her issues who hasn't attended in a long time. Yet deal we made was she does a walk thru and if she decides she'd like to attend a class than she can tell the school pychologist who will deliver her to that class. I should add the school personnel do not "get" my difficult child at all. Which I know many of us go thru. during our iep eligibility mtg. yesterday they fought tooth and nail to not give it to me. They looked at my husband and I like we were nuts when we explained difficult child's "wanting to attend school, saying she has friends etc. she's well liked, isn't paranoid" is her desire of how she'd like things to be. It is not "what is". they again gave us the "you guys are nuts" look. So, i walked in with her and met the school psychiatric we sat down for five minutes together. difficult child said tell her Mom, I said you need to learn to speak up for yourself. she sat and sat i'm not ready to attend a class, Yet i'll walk thru bldg. the school pysch shot back well we'll walk around and than if you want to attend a class you can. She didn't validate difficult child's concern's delve into ok why do you think your feeling anxious today, nada. right away i saw difficult child switch off and i knew id' be getting a call shortly thereafter to get her. sure enough I left her, returned home and phone rang exactly 25 min. later with difficult child saying mom i'm done please get me. Of which I did. I spoke to school psychiatric and said you keep repeating how my husband and myself know difficult child best yesterday at mtg. yet when i give you clues as to how to work her you do not listen. I told her the response she gave difficult child when difficult child advocated for herself and set her limits for the day weren't validated or even listened to she lost her. She gave me a synd look. I said I need Occupational Therapist (OT) get her in one class before school's out, so instead of handling her the way you did if you use my approach it'll work. Validate her concerns, listen to her and you will see that after a brief walk thru her anxiety will lessen slightly and she'll ask you can i go into a class now for a little while. We're due to return monday, i gotta get her up at 6:30 again for a big 30 minutes there lol. It's just another example of how us mom's know our children best, and how yet again school personnel in alot of instances do not and chose to take their own route with our children that isnt' always the most beneficial for the child. sorry i know this was long, yet i wanted to share that.