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Liahona
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I am dealing with 3 different schools this year and all 3 of them are ticking me off.
difficult child 1 got home today all excited about playing Halo in his after school program. difficult child 1 does not have both feet in reality. If he plays a game enough it becomes his reality which is why he is restricted to games like Animal Crossing and Mario Kart. We are trialing the Legend of Zelda and so far he is doing o.k. with it. One of his former therapists found out x was letting difficult child 1 play Halo and actually called x at home to try to get him to stop. (Normally people avoid x at all costs and this was the only time he ever initiated contact with x.) During school time they showed the Hunger Games. I haven't seen the movie, but I've read the books. difficult child 1 has read the books, but hasn't seen the movie. Only because I won't let him. If the movie is anything like the books its not a movie difficult child 1 should be watching. Luckily he didn't get to see it because he is failing Spanish.
difficult child 2 got to go to inclusion today. I had asked that they start with something very structured like math (not as many social skills to navigate.) The teacher said that they would start with computers. Its not math, but I was o.k. with it. Guess what he went to today! Art and music and they had the first fire drill of the year while he was with the 2nd grade class. Plus, the autism class had a sub today. And another autistic kid started in that class today. One that difficult child 2 knows from his class last year. difficult child 2 does not like him because "he is mean". Talk about setting a kid up to fail. Somehow difficult child 2 still got along well today.
difficult child 3 is being bullied during recess about once a week. I've been talking to the teacher about it. I talked to the playground aide about it and nothing was done. I called the principal who started looking into it. He called me back to tell me that difficult child 3 has never told the teacher or playground aide anything about the bullying. DUH! The kid is autistic! (I pointed that fact out to him nicer in the phone call.) He countered with difficult child 3 came up and talked to him when he was in difficult child 3's class room. I informed him that the only times the autism comes out is when difficult child 3 is under stress or physically hurt and being bullied counts as both. I reminded him of difficult child 3's failure to communicate the first day of school when his JRA was acting up. He said that the teacher has been looking for signs of arthritis everyday since then and she couldn't see any. I have told these people many times that his JRA only acts up once or twice a year, but when it does he has a hard time (or it isn't possible to) walking. I don't think he believes that difficult child 3 has JRA or autism or is being bullied. I am so frustrated. He did suggest giving difficult child 3's picture to the playground aides so if he comes and stands by one of them they should know he is trying to tell them something. He is also going to formally introduce difficult child 3 to the playground aides in hopes difficult child 3 will feel more comfortable talking to them. I'm not hopeful about either of these working, but they might. husband has told difficult child 3 that if anyone tries to hurt him to punch them in the nose. husband said he'd rather difficult child 3 got in trouble for fighting than be bullied. The problem with this is that it is a group of older kids. And, difficult child 3 doesn't understand who he is and is not supposed to be punching in the nose. husband has already had to clarify that it does NOT mean his sisters.
Thanks for listening.
difficult child 1 got home today all excited about playing Halo in his after school program. difficult child 1 does not have both feet in reality. If he plays a game enough it becomes his reality which is why he is restricted to games like Animal Crossing and Mario Kart. We are trialing the Legend of Zelda and so far he is doing o.k. with it. One of his former therapists found out x was letting difficult child 1 play Halo and actually called x at home to try to get him to stop. (Normally people avoid x at all costs and this was the only time he ever initiated contact with x.) During school time they showed the Hunger Games. I haven't seen the movie, but I've read the books. difficult child 1 has read the books, but hasn't seen the movie. Only because I won't let him. If the movie is anything like the books its not a movie difficult child 1 should be watching. Luckily he didn't get to see it because he is failing Spanish.
difficult child 2 got to go to inclusion today. I had asked that they start with something very structured like math (not as many social skills to navigate.) The teacher said that they would start with computers. Its not math, but I was o.k. with it. Guess what he went to today! Art and music and they had the first fire drill of the year while he was with the 2nd grade class. Plus, the autism class had a sub today. And another autistic kid started in that class today. One that difficult child 2 knows from his class last year. difficult child 2 does not like him because "he is mean". Talk about setting a kid up to fail. Somehow difficult child 2 still got along well today.
difficult child 3 is being bullied during recess about once a week. I've been talking to the teacher about it. I talked to the playground aide about it and nothing was done. I called the principal who started looking into it. He called me back to tell me that difficult child 3 has never told the teacher or playground aide anything about the bullying. DUH! The kid is autistic! (I pointed that fact out to him nicer in the phone call.) He countered with difficult child 3 came up and talked to him when he was in difficult child 3's class room. I informed him that the only times the autism comes out is when difficult child 3 is under stress or physically hurt and being bullied counts as both. I reminded him of difficult child 3's failure to communicate the first day of school when his JRA was acting up. He said that the teacher has been looking for signs of arthritis everyday since then and she couldn't see any. I have told these people many times that his JRA only acts up once or twice a year, but when it does he has a hard time (or it isn't possible to) walking. I don't think he believes that difficult child 3 has JRA or autism or is being bullied. I am so frustrated. He did suggest giving difficult child 3's picture to the playground aides so if he comes and stands by one of them they should know he is trying to tell them something. He is also going to formally introduce difficult child 3 to the playground aides in hopes difficult child 3 will feel more comfortable talking to them. I'm not hopeful about either of these working, but they might. husband has told difficult child 3 that if anyone tries to hurt him to punch them in the nose. husband said he'd rather difficult child 3 got in trouble for fighting than be bullied. The problem with this is that it is a group of older kids. And, difficult child 3 doesn't understand who he is and is not supposed to be punching in the nose. husband has already had to clarify that it does NOT mean his sisters.
Thanks for listening.
