If your child can hold it together long enough to make it through school but falls apart when she gets home, is a diagnosis of ODD going to help. I'm trying to find a family therapist who can work with all of us to try and find an approach that works for us. difficult child doesn't qualify for an IEP at school since she behaves (except that she's doing poorly in the class where she hates the teacher, she refuses to do his homework). Otherwise, she is doing fine. It's once she's home that she breaks down. It's like she's a totally different person. I think I need someone to work with us toward the common goal of peace more than I need someone to make an immediate diagnosis. And I don't need the typical "someone to talk to" type of shrink. She refuses to talk to people since she doesn't like to show any emotion. Anybody have a child like this....what was your approach and what worked best?