There are things that I know and can prove about L's dad R that would get him disbarred. I could ruin the reputation of his late ex-wife J, who was also an attorney and whose attorney father still poops golden tidbits on a daily basis. Things that I wouldn't even have trouble proving, because he was foolish enough to file false documents in two different jurisdictions in this state that disprove each other. The only reason I never did anything about it before is because I was trying to maintain the peace with L. To wit - When L was about 8, R left J and left L with her. They didn't tell me. I found out on President's Day weekend when L told me that her dad wasn't living with them anymore and hadn't been for a long time. I filed for custody of her in response, stating that he had essentially abandoned L to J, who had no legal or parental rights. R filed a sworn response in M county, where we lived, that he had in fact only left the home the Friday before President's Day, and was only making arrangements for a place to live with L, and that L would be with him soon. Three months went by before the hearing, and the judge gave a delayed verdict waiting for R to make up his mind. In the end, the Judge ruled that he would not decide because there was no final divorce. (What a drunken ****.) In the meantime, R filed for divorce from J in C County, where none of us lived, one county over saying that he had been legally separated from J since the October before the President's Day weekend in question and was eligible for a final divorce decree. J signed the same divorce papers that R had left in October, and swore in court that R hadn't left until nearly March. The state bar rules of conduct says that they can't lie, they can't lie in court, and that as soon as they realize that they may have made a misrepresentation to the court they must correct it. To be honest, the only thing I am waffling on is whether to sick an attorney on him and force him to sweat, maybe even ask for a settlement from his malpractice insurance on him, or just make the complaint and let the chips fall where they may. I hate to sound this way, but the more he would squirm, the better I would feel. He's gotten away with this for 29 years, and I've never played anything but fair with him because poor under-represented people don't get to lie, and I'm just not that good at it. I have no doubt that I have already burned my bridges with L - I no longer serve a purpose for her - so, what is the downside to either of these propositions?