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<blockquote data-quote="jal" data-source="post: 368767" data-attributes="member: 3477"><p>Phew...I feel better now that that's cleared up. </p><p></p><p><em>Everything I've read on running away from the "experts" on running away (e.g., missing child and pediatric websites) suggests that we need to go easy on punishment when she gets home, focus on communication and hearing the reasons why she ran. They also suggest that we need to be willing to negotiate the rules a little bit... not letting her do whatever she wants, but giving her some feeling of control (which we've taken away to a large degree because of other issues).</em></p><p></p><p>In my honest opinion that what's wrong with kids today. I have not been in your shoes as my difficult child is only 7, but someday I may be and I might view this differently, but I just think it breeds disrespect and a thumbing of authority. There has to be consequences for not following the rules. There is a time to negotiate rules, but not right after the breaking of the rules. I agree with what I said before and what JJJ said, her world needs to become very small and if not just because of running away, because of the nature of her computer correspondence and her behavior towards you.</p><p></p><p>Like I said she already has the power, giving her more control is not something you should be doing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jal, post: 368767, member: 3477"] Phew...I feel better now that that's cleared up. [I]Everything I've read on running away from the "experts" on running away (e.g., missing child and pediatric websites) suggests that we need to go easy on punishment when she gets home, focus on communication and hearing the reasons why she ran. They also suggest that we need to be willing to negotiate the rules a little bit... not letting her do whatever she wants, but giving her some feeling of control (which we've taken away to a large degree because of other issues).[/I] In my honest opinion that what's wrong with kids today. I have not been in your shoes as my difficult child is only 7, but someday I may be and I might view this differently, but I just think it breeds disrespect and a thumbing of authority. There has to be consequences for not following the rules. There is a time to negotiate rules, but not right after the breaking of the rules. I agree with what I said before and what JJJ said, her world needs to become very small and if not just because of running away, because of the nature of her computer correspondence and her behavior towards you. Like I said she already has the power, giving her more control is not something you should be doing. [/QUOTE]
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