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second-guessing our decision to bring our son home from Residential Treatment Center (RTC)
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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 246916" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Tomorrow it will be one full week since difficult child 2 returned home from a diagnostic program where he also detoxed from marijuana use. I've been panicking and second-guessing myself for the past six days and resentful as he** toward my ex for insisting that this was better than letting him stay at the facility while we hunted for an appropriate Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Once again, I let myself be used by my ex since I don't work outside the home (waiting for kids to stabilize enough so I can focus on job hunting) as the "babysitter" for a 16 year old who should have been working all week at his dad's office. So why wasn't he? Because two mornings this week he was too tired to get out of bed at 7:30 when dad was ready to leave for his office. So junior stayed asleep while dad left as usual for work, leaving it up to me to go to dad's house four miles away to watch over him. Neither dad nor I can physically get him out of bed and into the car against his will. This was the situation we had before he left for the diagnostic program. He complained he couldn't fall asleep early enough to wake up on time for school/work/whatever, so dad would shrug his shoulders, make a passive aggressive phone call to me, then go off to work.</p><p> </p><p>At the diagnostic facility bedtime was 9:30 (lights out) and wakeup was 7:40. He managed to abide by the rules because he wanted to keep whatever privileges he had earned, and he wanted to get out and come home. He had no medications to sleep and no psychiatric medications. Now that he's home he has all the fun distractions he's missed for the past six weeks: phone, computer, internet, cable tv, friends and family. </p><p> </p><p>This morning he refused to get out of bed. I had told him that if he wanted to spend the night at my home tonight he had to go to work today and comply with dad and me. I figured okay, that's it, he's blown it, he can't do what we ask, he's lost privileges and time to contact the Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s. Then dad called a little while ago and said difficult child 2 called him on his cell phone before he got five minutes from home and said he wanted to go work, would dad please pick him up. Dad agreed and he's at work until this afternoon. Im glad he decided to go with dad. </p><p> </p><p>Next Monday I'm calling a couple of day schools around here to see if they are appropriate for him, and the school district is supposed to have tutoring set up in dad's office by Tuesday. Having him in school all day will be a big relief.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 246916, member: 5941"] Tomorrow it will be one full week since difficult child 2 returned home from a diagnostic program where he also detoxed from marijuana use. I've been panicking and second-guessing myself for the past six days and resentful as he** toward my ex for insisting that this was better than letting him stay at the facility while we hunted for an appropriate Residential Treatment Center (RTC). Once again, I let myself be used by my ex since I don't work outside the home (waiting for kids to stabilize enough so I can focus on job hunting) as the "babysitter" for a 16 year old who should have been working all week at his dad's office. So why wasn't he? Because two mornings this week he was too tired to get out of bed at 7:30 when dad was ready to leave for his office. So junior stayed asleep while dad left as usual for work, leaving it up to me to go to dad's house four miles away to watch over him. Neither dad nor I can physically get him out of bed and into the car against his will. This was the situation we had before he left for the diagnostic program. He complained he couldn't fall asleep early enough to wake up on time for school/work/whatever, so dad would shrug his shoulders, make a passive aggressive phone call to me, then go off to work. At the diagnostic facility bedtime was 9:30 (lights out) and wakeup was 7:40. He managed to abide by the rules because he wanted to keep whatever privileges he had earned, and he wanted to get out and come home. He had no medications to sleep and no psychiatric medications. Now that he's home he has all the fun distractions he's missed for the past six weeks: phone, computer, internet, cable tv, friends and family. This morning he refused to get out of bed. I had told him that if he wanted to spend the night at my home tonight he had to go to work today and comply with dad and me. I figured okay, that's it, he's blown it, he can't do what we ask, he's lost privileges and time to contact the Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s. Then dad called a little while ago and said difficult child 2 called him on his cell phone before he got five minutes from home and said he wanted to go work, would dad please pick him up. Dad agreed and he's at work until this afternoon. Im glad he decided to go with dad. Next Monday I'm calling a couple of day schools around here to see if they are appropriate for him, and the school district is supposed to have tutoring set up in dad's office by Tuesday. Having him in school all day will be a big relief. [/QUOTE]
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