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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 279669" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">You don't want to cry for 8 years. It sounds like you have tried everything reasonable. And the fact that your parent refuse to see him is not a good sign. For the marriage to work he needs to be a part of the solution and commit to change. It sounds like he is not. Although I read somewhere that men respond better to the layer then the therapist. In that they often refuse to work with the therapist, but realize they need to turn things around when you talk to the layer.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">It is not true that kids always do better in homes where the parents are together just for the kids sake. Status quo is not always better then a divorce . They feel that tension as well. Many of the problems recovering doormat had with her kids might have happened anyway or earlier. If there is a lot of fighting or even just general disrespect it is not a good environment for the kids either. Remember your relationships are the main way they learn what relationships should be like.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">I have three divorced sisters. (Sister #1 left because of abuse. Sister #2 left because she believed in fidelity and he did not. And, Sister #3 left because he had mental illness, tried to kill her. She actually stayed until through the treatment for the mental illness until she discovered all the girl friends.)</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">The kids of sisters #1&3 had a more difficult time, because their spouses were very vindictive and punished my sisters by hurting the kids (usually emotionally). Sister #2 kids had little troubles as they did not fight over the divorce they just separated and always put the kids interest first. Yet all the kids are now doing reasonably well. (But none of them are really difficult children). All my sisters are much happier.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #333333"><span style="font-family: 'Verdana'">I agree with your daughter, you deserve better. If you can make the changes needed within the marriage then making it through the rough years can be really rewarding. But if you can't don't sacrifice your own happiness.</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 279669, member: 6557"] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]You don't want to cry for 8 years. It sounds like you have tried everything reasonable. And the fact that your parent refuse to see him is not a good sign. For the marriage to work he needs to be a part of the solution and commit to change. It sounds like he is not. Although I read somewhere that men respond better to the layer then the therapist. In that they often refuse to work with the therapist, but realize they need to turn things around when you talk to the layer.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]It is not true that kids always do better in homes where the parents are together just for the kids sake. Status quo is not always better then a divorce . They feel that tension as well. Many of the problems recovering doormat had with her kids might have happened anyway or earlier. If there is a lot of fighting or even just general disrespect it is not a good environment for the kids either. Remember your relationships are the main way they learn what relationships should be like.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]I have three divorced sisters. (Sister #1 left because of abuse. Sister #2 left because she believed in fidelity and he did not. And, Sister #3 left because he had mental illness, tried to kill her. She actually stayed until through the treatment for the mental illness until she discovered all the girl friends.)[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]The kids of sisters #1&3 had a more difficult time, because their spouses were very vindictive and punished my sisters by hurting the kids (usually emotionally). Sister #2 kids had little troubles as they did not fight over the divorce they just separated and always put the kids interest first. Yet all the kids are now doing reasonably well. (But none of them are really difficult children). All my sisters are much happier.[/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#333333][FONT=Verdana]I agree with your daughter, you deserve better. If you can make the changes needed within the marriage then making it through the rough years can be really rewarding. But if you can't don't sacrifice your own happiness.[/FONT][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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