difficult child asked for icecream for dessert. We do not have any. Yes, there is chocolate chip mint icecream. O.K. You take it out of the freezer and I will make you an ice cream cone. Well, one nasty thing led to another another and he was told to go to his room. Didn't go. "Mom, I need to talk to you." "No, you need to spend 10 minutes in your own room and then we will talk." Spends 15 minutes refusing, finally goes to his room. Out in 2 minutes, "Mom, it has been 10 minutes of missing you." "Get back to your room - you need to follow orders 1st and then we will talk." "But I have missed you for more than 10 minutes." "I need to talk to you so that I can go to sleep." "Go to your room - I will be there in 10 minutes." He slaps himself hard in the face and walks toward his room, "If I am still alive in 10 minutes." Now he is calling out, "Spank me, just come spank me". Do any of your difficult children try to set their own punishments? I have no idea where he is getting this from (maybe mimiking behavoir witnessed in psychiatric hospital?) He thinks if I spank him than it will all be o.k. and over and done with. I think this is another way for him to manipulate the situation into his terms. If I can't get out of a discipline, I will try to convince mom to punish me - If I say it is o.k. to do something like spanking, than she just may and I don't have to deal with her discipline (which includes thinking about what I am doing.) What a wasted evening - and no ice cream! Oh Well! It's been 10 minutes, I better go deal with the next step of this behavior. He is so tired that I think he will fall to sleep very soon - hope he feels better in the morning.