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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 487404" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I'm so very sorry if this is what is happening to your easy child. </p><p>It could be a test as she left a personal diary in a open space. It doesn't mean however that it isn't also true, as she could perhaps have wanted you to know but been afraid to come to you about it? It's a hard call. I personally would need to weigh how violated or resentful she might be about the snooping into it. However there is also the cutting which led to you reading it as a means to see how she is coping and many people would understand that a parent has hard choices to make when keeping kids safe.</p><p>As for miscarriages, I miscarried in the past in early pregnancy and it was basically for me a heavy period. I did see the doctor right away and was sent home to cope through it as there was nothing that could be done. I was however booked for a d&c to ensure my body was properly cleaned out to avoid potential complications of retained tissue. If your easy child is miscarrying she really needs to see the doctor in case a d&c is in order. It would be even more heart breaking of she had fertility issues later in life from avoiding a doctor. </p><p>Wish I had some wisdom but I think it's so individual among families how it work out. I personally think I'd tell her very sincerely that you did not mean or want to Hirt her or disrespect her right to privacy yet your mom fears for her well being post cutting led you to read it when it was left out and you are concerned at this possibility that har is miscarrying. I'd be cautious to have no judgement, respect her upset at you reading it etc. I think I would also talk to her about the positive benefits of journaling when struggling and perhaps set some boundaries you and she will respect. That you will look under xyz circumstances but never outside those. Or that she can leave it somewhere for you if she's trying to share, perhaps with a post it inside to mark the entry she wants you to read and that you won't read the others except if fears for her safety crop up. </p><p>Even if she's very upset about you reading it she needs to hear that as a parent you will put her well being first and miscarrying has physical and emotional ramifications that as a mother you plan to help her deal with. </p><p>I don't know her but my guy says leaving it out is her way for you to snoop and find what she was unable to come say out loud to you. Kids don't leave personal stuff like that laying about in shared spaces generally.</p><p>I'll be sending healing vibes as this can't be easy if it's what happening with her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 487404, member: 4264"] I'm so very sorry if this is what is happening to your easy child. It could be a test as she left a personal diary in a open space. It doesn't mean however that it isn't also true, as she could perhaps have wanted you to know but been afraid to come to you about it? It's a hard call. I personally would need to weigh how violated or resentful she might be about the snooping into it. However there is also the cutting which led to you reading it as a means to see how she is coping and many people would understand that a parent has hard choices to make when keeping kids safe. As for miscarriages, I miscarried in the past in early pregnancy and it was basically for me a heavy period. I did see the doctor right away and was sent home to cope through it as there was nothing that could be done. I was however booked for a d&c to ensure my body was properly cleaned out to avoid potential complications of retained tissue. If your easy child is miscarrying she really needs to see the doctor in case a d&c is in order. It would be even more heart breaking of she had fertility issues later in life from avoiding a doctor. Wish I had some wisdom but I think it's so individual among families how it work out. I personally think I'd tell her very sincerely that you did not mean or want to Hirt her or disrespect her right to privacy yet your mom fears for her well being post cutting led you to read it when it was left out and you are concerned at this possibility that har is miscarrying. I'd be cautious to have no judgement, respect her upset at you reading it etc. I think I would also talk to her about the positive benefits of journaling when struggling and perhaps set some boundaries you and she will respect. That you will look under xyz circumstances but never outside those. Or that she can leave it somewhere for you if she's trying to share, perhaps with a post it inside to mark the entry she wants you to read and that you won't read the others except if fears for her safety crop up. Even if she's very upset about you reading it she needs to hear that as a parent you will put her well being first and miscarrying has physical and emotional ramifications that as a mother you plan to help her deal with. I don't know her but my guy says leaving it out is her way for you to snoop and find what she was unable to come say out loud to you. Kids don't leave personal stuff like that laying about in shared spaces generally. I'll be sending healing vibes as this can't be easy if it's what happening with her. [/QUOTE]
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