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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 487795" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>I'm going to split sides here... For the most part I agree with Steely - I also completely stopped writing ANYTHING that had any meaning to myself, from the time I caught on that Mom was reading any of it. Locked that part of myself away so firmly, that I'm still paying for it 30+ years later. But... Mom was, well, always into the details of my life, always wanting to know exactly the things she didn't need to know (like whether or not I liked a particular teacher or subject, or was thinking of certain careers...). She butted into my life so often based on what she read that there was no way for me to explore or develop.</p><p></p><p>However... IF I felt one of my kids was in serious danger... I'd read, too.</p><p></p><p>I guess what I'm saying is... if you're the kind of a parent that "must" act on what you read, or if you have to snoop to do it and there is no "just cause" for doing so... you will probably do serious damage to both your child's development and to the relationship. If you can read and not act in any way, 99.999999% of the time (i.e. except for serious danger)... then maybe, if you're up front about it as Susie is, it would be OK.</p><p></p><p>If you don't have to snoop and the kid left it in the open... catch 22 is, how will you handle what you read??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 487795, member: 11791"] I'm going to split sides here... For the most part I agree with Steely - I also completely stopped writing ANYTHING that had any meaning to myself, from the time I caught on that Mom was reading any of it. Locked that part of myself away so firmly, that I'm still paying for it 30+ years later. But... Mom was, well, always into the details of my life, always wanting to know exactly the things she didn't need to know (like whether or not I liked a particular teacher or subject, or was thinking of certain careers...). She butted into my life so often based on what she read that there was no way for me to explore or develop. However... IF I felt one of my kids was in serious danger... I'd read, too. I guess what I'm saying is... if you're the kind of a parent that "must" act on what you read, or if you have to snoop to do it and there is no "just cause" for doing so... you will probably do serious damage to both your child's development and to the relationship. If you can read and not act in any way, 99.999999% of the time (i.e. except for serious danger)... then maybe, if you're up front about it as Susie is, it would be OK. If you don't have to snoop and the kid left it in the open... catch 22 is, how will you handle what you read?? [/QUOTE]
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