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<blockquote data-quote="Sara PA" data-source="post: 113492" data-attributes="member: 1498"><p>I believe that what happened with my son is that his brain healed and matured. The magic year seems to be the 20th. He never lost his longing for a real life. I did everything in my power to make sure that while he was sick he didn't screw up in a way that was going to affect the rest of his life. </p><p></p><p>Your son may not be able to go to those classes at this time. If you remember, my son had to drop out of school in mid 10th grade and was never able to go back beyond an attempt that lasted two weeks in the beginning of 11th grade. At one point he tried the community college route and did last half a semester but an overzealous Environment instructor had him convinced the world was going to self destruct and sent his anxiety level through the roof making him unable to leave the house again. Eventually he got well enough that he was able to go to the community college and take the GED test (just the test, no classes) in two (IIRC) sessions. (I am amazed at how well he educated himself during those all night sessions on the internet.) It was still a good year before he was well enough to think about trying a school again. Even then, he only last nine months until he had to come home and regroup for a few months. This time he's been gone a year on the 19th. He now has a life beyond what either of us had thought possible after these past few years. He is now, we decided this past month, about as normal as everyone else is. Not perfect but normal. Perfect isn't normal. And normal doesn't mean there may not be bad spots down the road. </p><p></p><p>The answer for us was patience while he healed and matured, while he takes those baby steps he has to take. Anxiety is a b****. Pushing him was only going to make the anxiety worse and if the anxiety worsened, he stopped moving forward. I had to allow him to do it on his time schedule, just like learning to walk when he was a baby.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sara PA, post: 113492, member: 1498"] I believe that what happened with my son is that his brain healed and matured. The magic year seems to be the 20th. He never lost his longing for a real life. I did everything in my power to make sure that while he was sick he didn't screw up in a way that was going to affect the rest of his life. Your son may not be able to go to those classes at this time. If you remember, my son had to drop out of school in mid 10th grade and was never able to go back beyond an attempt that lasted two weeks in the beginning of 11th grade. At one point he tried the community college route and did last half a semester but an overzealous Environment instructor had him convinced the world was going to self destruct and sent his anxiety level through the roof making him unable to leave the house again. Eventually he got well enough that he was able to go to the community college and take the GED test (just the test, no classes) in two (IIRC) sessions. (I am amazed at how well he educated himself during those all night sessions on the internet.) It was still a good year before he was well enough to think about trying a school again. Even then, he only last nine months until he had to come home and regroup for a few months. This time he's been gone a year on the 19th. He now has a life beyond what either of us had thought possible after these past few years. He is now, we decided this past month, about as normal as everyone else is. Not perfect but normal. Perfect isn't normal. And normal doesn't mean there may not be bad spots down the road. The answer for us was patience while he healed and matured, while he takes those baby steps he has to take. Anxiety is a b****. Pushing him was only going to make the anxiety worse and if the anxiety worsened, he stopped moving forward. I had to allow him to do it on his time schedule, just like learning to walk when he was a baby. [/QUOTE]
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