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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 440955" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>What do YOU do when this happens? When your dad or bro start arguing? At time I change the subject and have gotten my difficult child to simply ignore what they are speaking about (usually by asking questions about his latest obsession or what he wants to eat, lol) and talk to me instead. My father was FURIOUS the first time and then was told that I warned him - he was NOT to start in on Wiz or I would not allow Wiz to discuss the matter with him. And I didn't, so what was HIS problem? It worked. Other times I leave iwth difficult child. We simply walk away. I taught difficult child to "go to the bathroom" when that sort of thing started. I got through to him by keeping books in the bathroom and giving rewards when he did this calmly. By the time he got out my dad was distracted.</p><p></p><p>I also, with certain issues or at certain times, simply said, "dad, this isn't a problem for you to handle. You need Occupational Therapist (OT) stop now or leave." If we were at his house I put in that we would leave. I was always calm and said it in a voice that conveyed absolute confidence that what I said was right, and that it would happen. NO wishy washy would you please stop questions or we don't want to talk about that stuff. Just a statement of fact, said matter of factly, and then did what I said. Wasn't easy, but it was effective.</p><p></p><p>The reason I taught difficult child to go to the bathroom was because no one else can know if you have to "go" even if you just went. They may think you odd, but they cannot say you are lying because they are not inside you. It is a non-confrontational way to handle things and that is a good skill to have even if you are a kid.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 440955, member: 1233"] What do YOU do when this happens? When your dad or bro start arguing? At time I change the subject and have gotten my difficult child to simply ignore what they are speaking about (usually by asking questions about his latest obsession or what he wants to eat, lol) and talk to me instead. My father was FURIOUS the first time and then was told that I warned him - he was NOT to start in on Wiz or I would not allow Wiz to discuss the matter with him. And I didn't, so what was HIS problem? It worked. Other times I leave iwth difficult child. We simply walk away. I taught difficult child to "go to the bathroom" when that sort of thing started. I got through to him by keeping books in the bathroom and giving rewards when he did this calmly. By the time he got out my dad was distracted. I also, with certain issues or at certain times, simply said, "dad, this isn't a problem for you to handle. You need Occupational Therapist (OT) stop now or leave." If we were at his house I put in that we would leave. I was always calm and said it in a voice that conveyed absolute confidence that what I said was right, and that it would happen. NO wishy washy would you please stop questions or we don't want to talk about that stuff. Just a statement of fact, said matter of factly, and then did what I said. Wasn't easy, but it was effective. The reason I taught difficult child to go to the bathroom was because no one else can know if you have to "go" even if you just went. They may think you odd, but they cannot say you are lying because they are not inside you. It is a non-confrontational way to handle things and that is a good skill to have even if you are a kid. [/QUOTE]
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