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Sexual acting out - does it always mean a person was sexually abused?
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<blockquote data-quote="dashcat" data-source="post: 448508" data-attributes="member: 9175"><p>I've been wondering about this - especially lately considering my difficult child's promiscuity, sexual confusion and infidelity.</p><p></p><p>She was obsessed with boys - I am not exaggerating - since preschool. She would chase them on the playground, claim to be boyfriend/girlfriend ... to the point where teachers would mention it (though they thought it was "cute"). As she got older, she went into overdrive. I found some pages she'd ripped from her journal (and left in the middle of the living room floor!) when she was 12 .. it was in the form a letter to a boy she constantly called out to as we walked to school, harrassed on the playground, etc .. in which she said she wanted to "have sex". I was appalled as I was vigilant about what she watched on TV, who she played with and where, etc. Around that same time, she went on an internet porn spree and visited about 100 sites. Thankfully DEX (still married and relatively sane at the time) suspected something was up and put monitering software on the computer. She lost computer privileges for a month, was grounded and I sent her to counseling.</p><p></p><p>The counselor saw it as an isoltated incident, citing her possibly having ADD in which case her impulse control would be minimal.</p><p></p><p>She never did the porn thing again (here), but continued with her hyper focus on boys. She was always in pursuit of someone. Of couse we wouldn't let her "date" and, when she was old enough to do so, we watched her like a hawk.</p><p></p><p>Since her senior year in HS, she's been fairly out of control. I've posted before about her meeting guys (and girls) online, having multiple partners, alll while having a clueless boyfriend ..who changes with the weather.</p><p></p><p>It's always, always, always LOOOOVVVVEEE. She's always getting married, CB (dex's name for all boys since HS ...intials for current boyfriend) is always perfect ... but then the cheating starts up and she breaks up after she's conquered her next catch.</p><p></p><p>She was in counseling all through HS and has denied to me, her dad and her counselors that she was ever sexually abused. My current counselor says she simply had to be ....no kids at the age she started, are talking about sex like she was (there were many little incidents before the torn journal and internet porn binge).</p><p></p><p>I have wracked my brain - as has DEX (he was on board at one time) as to how/if this could have happened. We adopted her at age 8 months. Prior to that she was in two foster homes ... one with bio mom until three months. We know both foster families and I know you never really know someone, but still...</p><p></p><p>We were careful with babysitters. It is highly unlikely that it would have been a family member .....</p><p></p><p>Any words of wisdom? I'm just trying to understand as much as I can.</p><p></p><p>dash</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dashcat, post: 448508, member: 9175"] I've been wondering about this - especially lately considering my difficult child's promiscuity, sexual confusion and infidelity. She was obsessed with boys - I am not exaggerating - since preschool. She would chase them on the playground, claim to be boyfriend/girlfriend ... to the point where teachers would mention it (though they thought it was "cute"). As she got older, she went into overdrive. I found some pages she'd ripped from her journal (and left in the middle of the living room floor!) when she was 12 .. it was in the form a letter to a boy she constantly called out to as we walked to school, harrassed on the playground, etc .. in which she said she wanted to "have sex". I was appalled as I was vigilant about what she watched on TV, who she played with and where, etc. Around that same time, she went on an internet porn spree and visited about 100 sites. Thankfully DEX (still married and relatively sane at the time) suspected something was up and put monitering software on the computer. She lost computer privileges for a month, was grounded and I sent her to counseling. The counselor saw it as an isoltated incident, citing her possibly having ADD in which case her impulse control would be minimal. She never did the porn thing again (here), but continued with her hyper focus on boys. She was always in pursuit of someone. Of couse we wouldn't let her "date" and, when she was old enough to do so, we watched her like a hawk. Since her senior year in HS, she's been fairly out of control. I've posted before about her meeting guys (and girls) online, having multiple partners, alll while having a clueless boyfriend ..who changes with the weather. It's always, always, always LOOOOVVVVEEE. She's always getting married, CB (dex's name for all boys since HS ...intials for current boyfriend) is always perfect ... but then the cheating starts up and she breaks up after she's conquered her next catch. She was in counseling all through HS and has denied to me, her dad and her counselors that she was ever sexually abused. My current counselor says she simply had to be ....no kids at the age she started, are talking about sex like she was (there were many little incidents before the torn journal and internet porn binge). I have wracked my brain - as has DEX (he was on board at one time) as to how/if this could have happened. We adopted her at age 8 months. Prior to that she was in two foster homes ... one with bio mom until three months. We know both foster families and I know you never really know someone, but still... We were careful with babysitters. It is highly unlikely that it would have been a family member ..... Any words of wisdom? I'm just trying to understand as much as I can. dash [/QUOTE]
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