Tonight at sunset begins Rosh Hashana , the Jewish New year and day of judgement of the whole world You and your families will be in my thoughts and prayers for a successful year and a breakthrough in helping our kids to be successful and happy. The question is always asked why the Day of Mercy - Yom Kippur = the day of atonement comes after Rosh Hashana - the day of judgement , shouldn't we first atone for our sins and then go into the day of judgement. Repentance takes 2 forms - creating a new vision for one self , a commitment to the future and 2ndly dealing with the past , reparing and making amends. Focusing on the past first undermines our self esteem and our abilities to create a vision that won't be pulled down by the past. We need healthy self esteem , sense of self worth to create that vision and make a commitment to values. Self esteem is the belief that we have the inate ability to put in the effort and change It is a belief that we are good people and that the reason we are empathic and don't hurt others is not because we are scared of the consequences to us , but because we are the type of person who wouldn't want to hurt others. Once we have this new vision of ourselves , dealing with the past is more meaningful. A thief who has not undergone a transformation offers a meaningless apology , after we change we can ask ourselves , how could we do that .