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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 593610" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Okay. Thank you all for your experiences and insights. Let me first say that I completely understand, I truly do, how people get to a point where the last resort of stimulants comes to seem a welcome boon, and necessary.</p><p></p><p>Can I explain why the decision of whether or not to medicate is SUCH a dilemma in our case? Unlike your grandson, HMBgal, J has never been asked to leave a school or a play centre. We did have some trouble at the play centre before they knew he was ADHD. Since then, and since they have had some input from the psychiatrist, things have been fine there. It is obviously very tiring to him, but he sits still in school most of the time he is required to do so - well, he sits in his chair, he probably doesn't sit still - and concentrates on his work at least some of the time. There have always been grumbles from the school about how he doesn't listen sometimes, can be cheeky or rude, too brusque with the other kids but again all before they knew or accepted he is ADHD. J is leaving the village school at the end of this school year but I do have the feeling that they would now start to be responsive to ways to accommodate his differences - the neuro-psychiatric. report has been sent to the principal, the man who came to evaluate him from the school authority, his teacher and they have all read it and seem to be taking it seriously.</p><p></p><p> He has done various sports - gym, tennis, swimming, horse riding, roller skating, karate - for two years and there's been the occasional grumble but really nothing more than that. I have never told any of them he is ADHD, apart from the gym teacher. There's never seemed to be a need. It has not been easy, it is never easy, but we have got through, nobody has been demanding he take medications, nobody has even ever suggested it. </p><p></p><p>My hesitation is all about disturbing the natural rhythms and centredness of his body, his central good health. This is a child who has always slept well and quickly, who doesn't eat very much as it is and is definitely on the skinny side, who is moreover highly sensitive (less well-disposed people who call it being a PITA) to any pain or physical disturbance. Just to make it clear - I am NOT asking him "J, should I or should I not give you medication?" Of course he can't answer that and shouldn't have to. But I have asked him whether he would like to take a medication that would make him calmer, make children want to play with him more and make it less tiring for him in school. He is absolutely adamant that he likes himself the way he is and does not want to take such a medication. Actually I really do think, young though he is, that a child needs to be a willing participant in their treatment - ie they have to see the need for it themselves and be grateful for it. Many people have told me about this reaction in their kids who take stimulants. For the moment, J just isn't there. </p><p></p><p>I think we need to wait a while and then review the situation again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 593610, member: 11227"] Okay. Thank you all for your experiences and insights. Let me first say that I completely understand, I truly do, how people get to a point where the last resort of stimulants comes to seem a welcome boon, and necessary. Can I explain why the decision of whether or not to medicate is SUCH a dilemma in our case? Unlike your grandson, HMBgal, J has never been asked to leave a school or a play centre. We did have some trouble at the play centre before they knew he was ADHD. Since then, and since they have had some input from the psychiatrist, things have been fine there. It is obviously very tiring to him, but he sits still in school most of the time he is required to do so - well, he sits in his chair, he probably doesn't sit still - and concentrates on his work at least some of the time. There have always been grumbles from the school about how he doesn't listen sometimes, can be cheeky or rude, too brusque with the other kids but again all before they knew or accepted he is ADHD. J is leaving the village school at the end of this school year but I do have the feeling that they would now start to be responsive to ways to accommodate his differences - the neuro-psychiatric. report has been sent to the principal, the man who came to evaluate him from the school authority, his teacher and they have all read it and seem to be taking it seriously. He has done various sports - gym, tennis, swimming, horse riding, roller skating, karate - for two years and there's been the occasional grumble but really nothing more than that. I have never told any of them he is ADHD, apart from the gym teacher. There's never seemed to be a need. It has not been easy, it is never easy, but we have got through, nobody has been demanding he take medications, nobody has even ever suggested it. My hesitation is all about disturbing the natural rhythms and centredness of his body, his central good health. This is a child who has always slept well and quickly, who doesn't eat very much as it is and is definitely on the skinny side, who is moreover highly sensitive (less well-disposed people who call it being a PITA) to any pain or physical disturbance. Just to make it clear - I am NOT asking him "J, should I or should I not give you medication?" Of course he can't answer that and shouldn't have to. But I have asked him whether he would like to take a medication that would make him calmer, make children want to play with him more and make it less tiring for him in school. He is absolutely adamant that he likes himself the way he is and does not want to take such a medication. Actually I really do think, young though he is, that a child needs to be a willing participant in their treatment - ie they have to see the need for it themselves and be grateful for it. Many people have told me about this reaction in their kids who take stimulants. For the moment, J just isn't there. I think we need to wait a while and then review the situation again. [/QUOTE]
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