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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 521491" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Kathy-I have not been on the board for a few days, I am sorry to come back to this. My daughter's last Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was a DBT center. She had intensive DBT for 10 months all day every day basically. It really is what works for Borderline (BPD), but they have to want to get better. They say that the average adult will take 2 years to fully use the skills when they are going to group and individual therapy once a week. I had to learn the skills along with her-very common sense but really good. Borderline (BPD) people do not have these skills naturally. When I try to ask her to use a skill or plan ahead for distress tolerance (her worst coping skill), she gets mad and calls it therapy for retards. She is so much younger but we had to do it-even after years of failed therpy and 18 months in a private Residential Treatment Center (RTC). We also had to do EMDR for the trauma-she needed this longer, but her therapist moved and she refused to meet the new one.</p><p></p><p>You must do what you feel will help. You do not know the outcome, and you may feel like it was a waste. Not doing it, gives her no chance. I do agree she should also committ to a 12 step program as well because no therapy works with the altered mind. </p><p></p><p>There is no medication for personality disorders. They can treat the secondary issues of depression, anxiety etc. if they are present. And yes medication is not always effective and can cause many side effects. We have had little luck.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. And I say, do what you feel is right. If you go to NAMI they don't push the harline approach that a 12 step program uses. One book I read about Borderline (BPD) said that tough love backfires and makes things worse. There isn't a book with all the answers, they often contadict each other! What is sad is personality disorders are so serious, hard to treat, and get little support when it comes to insurance companies.</p><p></p><p>we are in it for the long haul and we have to figure out how to be happy and have a life despite.... I actually don't think the cancer analogy is bad. If our kids had cancer there would be a lot more support. Friends would not fly away in droves and you might even have it convered by insurance. (((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 521491, member: 11001"] Kathy-I have not been on the board for a few days, I am sorry to come back to this. My daughter's last Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was a DBT center. She had intensive DBT for 10 months all day every day basically. It really is what works for Borderline (BPD), but they have to want to get better. They say that the average adult will take 2 years to fully use the skills when they are going to group and individual therapy once a week. I had to learn the skills along with her-very common sense but really good. Borderline (BPD) people do not have these skills naturally. When I try to ask her to use a skill or plan ahead for distress tolerance (her worst coping skill), she gets mad and calls it therapy for retards. She is so much younger but we had to do it-even after years of failed therpy and 18 months in a private Residential Treatment Center (RTC). We also had to do EMDR for the trauma-she needed this longer, but her therapist moved and she refused to meet the new one. You must do what you feel will help. You do not know the outcome, and you may feel like it was a waste. Not doing it, gives her no chance. I do agree she should also committ to a 12 step program as well because no therapy works with the altered mind. There is no medication for personality disorders. They can treat the secondary issues of depression, anxiety etc. if they are present. And yes medication is not always effective and can cause many side effects. We have had little luck. My heart goes out to you. And I say, do what you feel is right. If you go to NAMI they don't push the harline approach that a 12 step program uses. One book I read about Borderline (BPD) said that tough love backfires and makes things worse. There isn't a book with all the answers, they often contadict each other! What is sad is personality disorders are so serious, hard to treat, and get little support when it comes to insurance companies. we are in it for the long haul and we have to figure out how to be happy and have a life despite.... I actually don't think the cancer analogy is bad. If our kids had cancer there would be a lot more support. Friends would not fly away in droves and you might even have it convered by insurance. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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