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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 241296" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Kjs - my point wasn't to get you to make allowances for her, not at all. Only to help you detach more from this creature taking over your life. You absolutely should not make allowances or give way where it's going to cause you or your family to be in harm's way. Feel free to intensely dislike this creature but still love your daughter.</p><p></p><p>I'm just horrified that they say they can't press charges because she's under 18 - in our area, when difficult child 3 was attacked by some local kids, we were told that if the kids had been over 10 years old they could have pressed charges.</p><p></p><p>She's been released to you and is supposed to be on this system that ensures she's on her medications and complying with treatment - she doesn't sound very compliant to me, so what can they do about it if she isn't? She's being disrespectful, she's going through stuff looking for some drugs she can abuse, she's being verbally abusive - can't they do anything? This doesn't sound like compliance.</p><p></p><p>A suggestion (don't know how much help it will be) - keep a diary of what she is doing (the Naproxen raid, the wanting to go out at 1 am, the waking everyone in the house with abuse, the whole bit) and ask the TASK officer on Friday just how much you're supposed to put up with and what you should do in the event she does this again. Because to have her behave this way in the house is dangerous to your son, it is deliberately (by the court) putting a minor in danger and in an abusive environment, which is fine once difficult child is gone. In other words, by putting difficult child back home, the court system has created an intolerable situation which is damaging your son. OK, it's damaging the rest of you too, but if any parent took a child to stay in a house with this sort of stuff going on, we'd be having to "please explain" to CPS. So why is the court system immune?</p><p></p><p>However, before you actually run that line, do check with people who live in your area, I'm working from knowledge of the Aussie system, not the US system.</p><p></p><p>Are you planning an emancipation party for when she turns 18? Something on the scale of Sydney's New Year's Eve fireworks...</p><p><a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/australiaandthepacific/australia/4045458/Video-Sydneys-spectacular-New-Years-Eve-fireworks.html" target="_blank">http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/australiaandthepacific/australia/4045458/Video-Sydneys-spectacular-New-Years-Eve-fireworks.html</a></p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 241296, member: 1991"] Kjs - my point wasn't to get you to make allowances for her, not at all. Only to help you detach more from this creature taking over your life. You absolutely should not make allowances or give way where it's going to cause you or your family to be in harm's way. Feel free to intensely dislike this creature but still love your daughter. I'm just horrified that they say they can't press charges because she's under 18 - in our area, when difficult child 3 was attacked by some local kids, we were told that if the kids had been over 10 years old they could have pressed charges. She's been released to you and is supposed to be on this system that ensures she's on her medications and complying with treatment - she doesn't sound very compliant to me, so what can they do about it if she isn't? She's being disrespectful, she's going through stuff looking for some drugs she can abuse, she's being verbally abusive - can't they do anything? This doesn't sound like compliance. A suggestion (don't know how much help it will be) - keep a diary of what she is doing (the Naproxen raid, the wanting to go out at 1 am, the waking everyone in the house with abuse, the whole bit) and ask the TASK officer on Friday just how much you're supposed to put up with and what you should do in the event she does this again. Because to have her behave this way in the house is dangerous to your son, it is deliberately (by the court) putting a minor in danger and in an abusive environment, which is fine once difficult child is gone. In other words, by putting difficult child back home, the court system has created an intolerable situation which is damaging your son. OK, it's damaging the rest of you too, but if any parent took a child to stay in a house with this sort of stuff going on, we'd be having to "please explain" to CPS. So why is the court system immune? However, before you actually run that line, do check with people who live in your area, I'm working from knowledge of the Aussie system, not the US system. Are you planning an emancipation party for when she turns 18? Something on the scale of Sydney's New Year's Eve fireworks... [url]http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/australiaandthepacific/australia/4045458/Video-Sydneys-spectacular-New-Years-Eve-fireworks.html[/url] Marg [/QUOTE]
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