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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 638771" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>PG,</p><p>I'm so disappointed in her right now, and could wring her neck for you. on the other hand, 19 months clean on her first try, after so many years of risky behavior and substance abuse is still amazing in itself. Has she had any other outside counseling or support other than you and your husband? Going from a crazy lifestyle to responsible motherhood at 20-21 yrs. old is ridiculously hard. Heck, going from a responsible easy child to a mom at 20-21 is ridiculously hard, and it never, ever ends, day after day. Add to that a backbreaking service industry job, and having to take medications for other issues, and I'm frankly amazed she made it this far.</p><p>Maybe the relapse was just a way of saying, 'F---k it, I'm sick of being responsible, if I mess up royally, I get out of this nightmare for a while." That doesn't mean she doesn't adore Connor, she just doesn't have the tools and support to make a real go of it for any length of time. The fanfare of her sobriety and the honeymoon of having a magnificent, healthy baby has worn off into the day-to-day frustrations that can send someone fragile over the edge. You and husband have done so much, more than most, to guide and help her, but it is still overwhelmingly her responsibility and she is a kid herself, who spent her youth high on something during the years she was supposed to be mentally maturing. That doesn't give her a free pass, under any circumstances, but maybe there's more to this than meets the eye?</p><p>Sending understanding and caring hugs to your whole family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 638771, member: 13882"] PG, I'm so disappointed in her right now, and could wring her neck for you. on the other hand, 19 months clean on her first try, after so many years of risky behavior and substance abuse is still amazing in itself. Has she had any other outside counseling or support other than you and your husband? Going from a crazy lifestyle to responsible motherhood at 20-21 yrs. old is ridiculously hard. Heck, going from a responsible easy child to a mom at 20-21 is ridiculously hard, and it never, ever ends, day after day. Add to that a backbreaking service industry job, and having to take medications for other issues, and I'm frankly amazed she made it this far. Maybe the relapse was just a way of saying, 'F---k it, I'm sick of being responsible, if I mess up royally, I get out of this nightmare for a while." That doesn't mean she doesn't adore Connor, she just doesn't have the tools and support to make a real go of it for any length of time. The fanfare of her sobriety and the honeymoon of having a magnificent, healthy baby has worn off into the day-to-day frustrations that can send someone fragile over the edge. You and husband have done so much, more than most, to guide and help her, but it is still overwhelmingly her responsibility and she is a kid herself, who spent her youth high on something during the years she was supposed to be mentally maturing. That doesn't give her a free pass, under any circumstances, but maybe there's more to this than meets the eye? Sending understanding and caring hugs to your whole family. [/QUOTE]
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