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She is just so hard to love
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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 201487"><p>Thank you for the support. </p><p></p><p>Adrianne, have you met my daughter? You described your difficult child and it was like you were talking about mine!!! You are so right, my daughter is never with me and so when we go out as a family she feels left out, however even when she is home she doesn't want to do anything with us. You cant win.</p><p></p><p>Amaze, there is a shelter, however it works on a voluntary basis. If she doesn't want to go she doesn't have to. She has already been in 3 rtcs, so at this point there is really nowhere else for her to go. When she is 18 (feb) she says she is moving out. Keeping my fingers crossed!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Meow, I would absolutely call the police on her. In fact I have done that so much already that I personally know half of the police force. She is smart though, she knows now that she is no longer considered a minor in the eyes of the criminal court she will go to jail if she hits me. She always tells me that she wont actually hit me because she knows I will call the cops and she will go to jail. </p><p></p><p>She came home last night, she did take her medications, I made her open her mouth to ensure that she actually swallowed them this time. She did. She wanted something to eat. I told her she was not allowed to cook anything at that time of night, if she wants to eat dinner she has to be here to do so. At this point we really don't give her anything or do anything for her. I don't even feel bad about it anymore. This is how it will stay until she decides to put the effort into changing her life. Like Nancy said, she is going to sink or swim on her own!!! I told her that I will be here for her when she is ready, until then I will not put any more energy in trying to help her. I am still working on detatching and not letting her rope me into a screaming match. I still live in sadness though. I can't seem to get past that. My heart aches for her, I feel so badly for her and want so much for her to find peace. How does a mother avoid that pain? Of course, those feelings turn into absolute disgust when she is abusing me. Sometimes I feel like I actually hate my kid!!! That is terrible. What a way to live!!!</p><p>When I think about all that we, as a family, have done for her over the years, all the pain we have felt, all the desperate steps we have taken to save her, it makes me so ANGRY that she has chosen just to throw her life away. It was all for nothing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 201487"] Thank you for the support. Adrianne, have you met my daughter? You described your difficult child and it was like you were talking about mine!!! You are so right, my daughter is never with me and so when we go out as a family she feels left out, however even when she is home she doesn't want to do anything with us. You cant win. Amaze, there is a shelter, however it works on a voluntary basis. If she doesn't want to go she doesn't have to. She has already been in 3 rtcs, so at this point there is really nowhere else for her to go. When she is 18 (feb) she says she is moving out. Keeping my fingers crossed!!! :) Meow, I would absolutely call the police on her. In fact I have done that so much already that I personally know half of the police force. She is smart though, she knows now that she is no longer considered a minor in the eyes of the criminal court she will go to jail if she hits me. She always tells me that she wont actually hit me because she knows I will call the cops and she will go to jail. She came home last night, she did take her medications, I made her open her mouth to ensure that she actually swallowed them this time. She did. She wanted something to eat. I told her she was not allowed to cook anything at that time of night, if she wants to eat dinner she has to be here to do so. At this point we really don't give her anything or do anything for her. I don't even feel bad about it anymore. This is how it will stay until she decides to put the effort into changing her life. Like Nancy said, she is going to sink or swim on her own!!! I told her that I will be here for her when she is ready, until then I will not put any more energy in trying to help her. I am still working on detatching and not letting her rope me into a screaming match. I still live in sadness though. I can't seem to get past that. My heart aches for her, I feel so badly for her and want so much for her to find peace. How does a mother avoid that pain? Of course, those feelings turn into absolute disgust when she is abusing me. Sometimes I feel like I actually hate my kid!!! That is terrible. What a way to live!!! When I think about all that we, as a family, have done for her over the years, all the pain we have felt, all the desperate steps we have taken to save her, it makes me so ANGRY that she has chosen just to throw her life away. It was all for nothing. [/QUOTE]
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