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She is just so hard to love
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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 202073" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Bran, {{{{{HUGS}}}}} for your hurting mommy heart.</p><p></p><p>I think Andy's advice is great as well. During a calm moment, state clear firm rules. Post them if you think it will help.</p><p></p><p>I wonder...although you can't kick your daughter out at 18, it might be worth changing the way things are run in your home. She can live there, but only on terms of a boarder. You provide room and board (a mattress, basic meals), and nothing further. Rather than engaging her in conflict, just walk away. If she leaves a mess in the kitchen, pile the mess on her bed. If she leaves her stuff around, throw it out, donate it or sell it.</p><p></p><p>One of our other members (I think it was Meowbunny) told her daughter that as long as disrespect continued, she would be treated like a tenant not a daughter. It seemed to work really well.</p><p></p><p>What it will do is set clear boundaries with natural consequences for her behaviour. It also might prepare her for the real world that she's eventually going to have to face.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 202073, member: 3907"] Bran, {{{{{HUGS}}}}} for your hurting mommy heart. I think Andy's advice is great as well. During a calm moment, state clear firm rules. Post them if you think it will help. I wonder...although you can't kick your daughter out at 18, it might be worth changing the way things are run in your home. She can live there, but only on terms of a boarder. You provide room and board (a mattress, basic meals), and nothing further. Rather than engaging her in conflict, just walk away. If she leaves a mess in the kitchen, pile the mess on her bed. If she leaves her stuff around, throw it out, donate it or sell it. One of our other members (I think it was Meowbunny) told her daughter that as long as disrespect continued, she would be treated like a tenant not a daughter. It seemed to work really well. What it will do is set clear boundaries with natural consequences for her behaviour. It also might prepare her for the real world that she's eventually going to have to face. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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