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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 202102"><p>Thank you all so much for your continued support. It is much appreciated. </p><p></p><p>We had a meeting yesterday with our sw, the one I love so much and the new one that will be taking over the case. I am sad about that because I really feel a connection with my sw. We have a sort of friendship. I will miss her. It was her birthday last week, so I bought her a present (robe and slippers). She said she really wasn't allowed to accept it, I forced her to. Anyway my daughter actually sat with us for about 15 minutes. Major step for her as she never attends these meetings. She did admit that she wasn't doing well. That is as far as it went with her. The meeting then was directed at my behavior. They want me to look into "Structural Family Therapy". I researched it last night and it really does make sense. Basically my difficult child is my puppet master, she has perfected the ability to make me dance, so to speak. It is my job to learn how to detach and not do that dance. My sw says that I behave the way I do with regards to my daughter in part because of my childhood. I never believed my mom loved me, she chose her evil husband over me. I went through hell as a kid and now am so hell bent on making sure my daughter knows I love her so I end up overcompensating!!! True, true, true!!! I see it so much. I know I do it, the question is how on earth do I change that? Hence, the "Structural Family Therapy". I am willing to do it, heck I'll do anything at this point. They also want me to take this parenting class their agency offers, if I complete it I get a brand new computer!!!! You cant beat that offer - hu?</p><p></p><p>So for now, I will try my best to refrain from dancing with my daughter, detach and breath. A lot easier said than done!!!</p><p></p><p>Thanks again, </p><p>Shawna <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 202102"] Thank you all so much for your continued support. It is much appreciated. We had a meeting yesterday with our sw, the one I love so much and the new one that will be taking over the case. I am sad about that because I really feel a connection with my sw. We have a sort of friendship. I will miss her. It was her birthday last week, so I bought her a present (robe and slippers). She said she really wasn't allowed to accept it, I forced her to. Anyway my daughter actually sat with us for about 15 minutes. Major step for her as she never attends these meetings. She did admit that she wasn't doing well. That is as far as it went with her. The meeting then was directed at my behavior. They want me to look into "Structural Family Therapy". I researched it last night and it really does make sense. Basically my difficult child is my puppet master, she has perfected the ability to make me dance, so to speak. It is my job to learn how to detach and not do that dance. My sw says that I behave the way I do with regards to my daughter in part because of my childhood. I never believed my mom loved me, she chose her evil husband over me. I went through hell as a kid and now am so hell bent on making sure my daughter knows I love her so I end up overcompensating!!! True, true, true!!! I see it so much. I know I do it, the question is how on earth do I change that? Hence, the "Structural Family Therapy". I am willing to do it, heck I'll do anything at this point. They also want me to take this parenting class their agency offers, if I complete it I get a brand new computer!!!! You cant beat that offer - hu? So for now, I will try my best to refrain from dancing with my daughter, detach and breath. A lot easier said than done!!! Thanks again, Shawna :) [/QUOTE]
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