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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 239096" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>It is so hard when our kid ends up in jail. The initial worry about how they will survive it and what will happen to them when they get out and whether it is enough of a deterrant to them to get their act together can be overwhelming. The thing is we have no control over any of it.. NONE, ZIP, NADA. So as a mom who has been there done that, I suggest that you only go to visit when YOU feel like it. When the visit becomes unpleasant you leave immediately (same with the phone calls) Let her know exactly what the rules will be if you plan on taking her back home and when/if she doesn't obey kick her out. It is all so hard but it is necessary. You did the best you could she is rebelling against both you and society and her own limitations. But she is not channeling it into constructive avenues. Bottom line, you have no control over her or the legal consequences of her actions. </p><p></p><p>Pray for the ability to love her even when she is unlovable. Enjoy the pleasant times when they are happening and do not dwell on the unpleasant. And take good care of you and the other members of the family. It is hard at first but try to enjoy life in spite of what is going on with your difficult child. difficult child's in general hate not being the center of attention. If you go on and make a new life where she is not the main focus and show her that bad behavior gets NO attention from you, maybe just maybe she will start to exhibit more good behavior.-RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 239096, member: 2315"] It is so hard when our kid ends up in jail. The initial worry about how they will survive it and what will happen to them when they get out and whether it is enough of a deterrant to them to get their act together can be overwhelming. The thing is we have no control over any of it.. NONE, ZIP, NADA. So as a mom who has been there done that, I suggest that you only go to visit when YOU feel like it. When the visit becomes unpleasant you leave immediately (same with the phone calls) Let her know exactly what the rules will be if you plan on taking her back home and when/if she doesn't obey kick her out. It is all so hard but it is necessary. You did the best you could she is rebelling against both you and society and her own limitations. But she is not channeling it into constructive avenues. Bottom line, you have no control over her or the legal consequences of her actions. Pray for the ability to love her even when she is unlovable. Enjoy the pleasant times when they are happening and do not dwell on the unpleasant. And take good care of you and the other members of the family. It is hard at first but try to enjoy life in spite of what is going on with your difficult child. difficult child's in general hate not being the center of attention. If you go on and make a new life where she is not the main focus and show her that bad behavior gets NO attention from you, maybe just maybe she will start to exhibit more good behavior.-RM [/QUOTE]
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