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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 550743" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Kathy, I so understand how torn you are. With us and our difficult child, we always told him we'd be here to help ... but only if he was doing the right things. When we allowed him to move back in here after his relationship with his son's mother came apart, he wasn't drinking. Unbeknownst to us, it started again. He never smelled like booze, but all of a sudden, I kept saying to husband and my easy child that I thought he seemed drunk. Neither of them thought so, so at first, I kept thinking I was imagining things. Not. He was drinking, and quite heavily. When we realized he was, he briefly moved in with a friend because I told him I could not and would not live through it all again (PTSD from his drugging days). It didn't last but a few weeks when he called me on a Monday morning after a really brutal weekend of heavy drinking and asked me if I would pick him up, go to his work to tell them he was heading to the hospital for help, and that's where we went. He was hospitalized for two week - first detox unit and then psychiatric unit.</p><p></p><p>If your daughter is trying and working with a therapist and still holding down a job, then my suggestion is to try to work with her, but as mentioned above, there have to be ground rules. If she stops trying to get better and refuses the therapy and won't attend any meetings, then letting her remain in your house is only going to get volitile.</p><p></p><p>Hugs. It's definitely a fine line we walk when trying to help our children get the help they need, but not wanting to enable them or else we know in our heart of hearts that it will only go downhill and never end.</p><p></p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 550743, member: 27"] Kathy, I so understand how torn you are. With us and our difficult child, we always told him we'd be here to help ... but only if he was doing the right things. When we allowed him to move back in here after his relationship with his son's mother came apart, he wasn't drinking. Unbeknownst to us, it started again. He never smelled like booze, but all of a sudden, I kept saying to husband and my easy child that I thought he seemed drunk. Neither of them thought so, so at first, I kept thinking I was imagining things. Not. He was drinking, and quite heavily. When we realized he was, he briefly moved in with a friend because I told him I could not and would not live through it all again (PTSD from his drugging days). It didn't last but a few weeks when he called me on a Monday morning after a really brutal weekend of heavy drinking and asked me if I would pick him up, go to his work to tell them he was heading to the hospital for help, and that's where we went. He was hospitalized for two week - first detox unit and then psychiatric unit. If your daughter is trying and working with a therapist and still holding down a job, then my suggestion is to try to work with her, but as mentioned above, there have to be ground rules. If she stops trying to get better and refuses the therapy and won't attend any meetings, then letting her remain in your house is only going to get volitile. Hugs. It's definitely a fine line we walk when trying to help our children get the help they need, but not wanting to enable them or else we know in our heart of hearts that it will only go downhill and never end. Deb [/QUOTE]
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