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She moved into the women's shelter
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 609876" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Mamakathy, although all of this is terribly difficult on us parents, you have consistently done what I would consider the appropriate things when dealing with a young woman who has been acting as your daughter has. </p><p></p><p>Yes, I understand that feeling about being happy she is at a women's shelter..............our reality changes under these circumstances and I think what we want most of all is for them to be safe. It is not uncommon for us to be happy that they are in jail rather then the streets or other dangerous places. Sigh. I know how you feel.</p><p></p><p>You did well through all the initial dramas, holding strong and not giving in, and as a result your daughter made the right choices and rose to the occasion. Hopefully now she will get herself into the transitional living program and learn the tools she needs. </p><p></p><p>It certainly does appear that the less we enable our adult kids and the more we put the onus onto them, the better they fare. That is not always the case, but it is often the case. I know this is difficult for you, but you've made very good choices and now she is safe and has a real chance to move ahead. The rest is up to her. In the meantime, you can take a deep breath and relax with your family and focus on yourself and your younger children. Good job! Keep us posted as to how it's going.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 609876, member: 13542"] Mamakathy, although all of this is terribly difficult on us parents, you have consistently done what I would consider the appropriate things when dealing with a young woman who has been acting as your daughter has. Yes, I understand that feeling about being happy she is at a women's shelter..............our reality changes under these circumstances and I think what we want most of all is for them to be safe. It is not uncommon for us to be happy that they are in jail rather then the streets or other dangerous places. Sigh. I know how you feel. You did well through all the initial dramas, holding strong and not giving in, and as a result your daughter made the right choices and rose to the occasion. Hopefully now she will get herself into the transitional living program and learn the tools she needs. It certainly does appear that the less we enable our adult kids and the more we put the onus onto them, the better they fare. That is not always the case, but it is often the case. I know this is difficult for you, but you've made very good choices and now she is safe and has a real chance to move ahead. The rest is up to her. In the meantime, you can take a deep breath and relax with your family and focus on yourself and your younger children. Good job! Keep us posted as to how it's going. [/QUOTE]
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