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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 609956" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>MK, you're not gambling with her life because it isn't your life to gamble with, it's hers, she is doing the gambling. If she were 7 or 15 that would be different, she is 19 so she has to learn how to have life skills which you can't teach her. Many of our kids need to learn about life on their own terms and those terms are often pretty scary and weird for us, but really, what choice did you have? You know in your heart as well as logically that there were few or no other options which would have worked out in a healthy way. At some point she has to face her choices, it may as well be now. </p><p></p><p>Your mother is having the response many who aren't the PARENTS have, they may not know the inside track the way we do and don't understand the choices we make. Let it go. You will likely never be able to explain it to her in a fashion she'll understand or abide............after awhile, it becomes easier to allow others their opinions, judgments and observations without responding. They simply don't know. </p><p></p><p>It hurts MK, it hurts a lot. I know. I've been there too, so have many of us..........really, try to do something kind for yourself, even taking a bath, or curling up in front of a fire with a book and a cup of hot chocolate...........anything which is soothing and calming............and just for you............take care of you now.........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 609956, member: 13542"] MK, you're not gambling with her life because it isn't your life to gamble with, it's hers, she is doing the gambling. If she were 7 or 15 that would be different, she is 19 so she has to learn how to have life skills which you can't teach her. Many of our kids need to learn about life on their own terms and those terms are often pretty scary and weird for us, but really, what choice did you have? You know in your heart as well as logically that there were few or no other options which would have worked out in a healthy way. At some point she has to face her choices, it may as well be now. Your mother is having the response many who aren't the PARENTS have, they may not know the inside track the way we do and don't understand the choices we make. Let it go. You will likely never be able to explain it to her in a fashion she'll understand or abide............after awhile, it becomes easier to allow others their opinions, judgments and observations without responding. They simply don't know. It hurts MK, it hurts a lot. I know. I've been there too, so have many of us..........really, try to do something kind for yourself, even taking a bath, or curling up in front of a fire with a book and a cup of hot chocolate...........anything which is soothing and calming............and just for you............take care of you now......... [/QUOTE]
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