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She says she's ready ...so how do I help?
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<blockquote data-quote="Smithmom" data-source="post: 743264" data-attributes="member: 23371"><p>One other note.. I'm more than a warrior Mom. I won't let "the system" mess with my kids. These places can be busy. And one of the games is to tell her not today, appointment in 3 days or something. A game to see if she's serious? No playing games with my kids. If my kid agrees to rehab he's on their doorstep when they open the door in the morning. With me pushing him in the door and telling them we'll wait. And I will sit there until they get the message that we're not leaving. This is me, not everyone. Yes, I practice tough love but if I see a glimmer of hope I'm exploiting it. Again, just me. But if it gets my kid to the top of the line, that last available bed, that's fine. I don't give a hoot what they think of me.</p><p></p><p>This is really about what is in my control. I can't make my kid go or stay. His life is not in my control. But for that one hour, that one day that I can do something I do with every ounce of strength I have. This is how I cope. I let go and then charge in when I can. Knowing that the moment they say "we'll see you now" to my son my moment is over. I am back to no knowledge or control of his life. I walk out that door and I'm back to detachment.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Smithmom, post: 743264, member: 23371"] One other note.. I'm more than a warrior Mom. I won't let "the system" mess with my kids. These places can be busy. And one of the games is to tell her not today, appointment in 3 days or something. A game to see if she's serious? No playing games with my kids. If my kid agrees to rehab he's on their doorstep when they open the door in the morning. With me pushing him in the door and telling them we'll wait. And I will sit there until they get the message that we're not leaving. This is me, not everyone. Yes, I practice tough love but if I see a glimmer of hope I'm exploiting it. Again, just me. But if it gets my kid to the top of the line, that last available bed, that's fine. I don't give a hoot what they think of me. This is really about what is in my control. I can't make my kid go or stay. His life is not in my control. But for that one hour, that one day that I can do something I do with every ounce of strength I have. This is how I cope. I let go and then charge in when I can. Knowing that the moment they say "we'll see you now" to my son my moment is over. I am back to no knowledge or control of his life. I walk out that door and I'm back to detachment. [/QUOTE]
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