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<blockquote data-quote="alongfortheride" data-source="post: 253562" data-attributes="member: 3817"><p>I know that his inability to secure work is directly tied to his dxs but he has had years of support/therapy and medications to help him overcome this and he chooses not to help himself. I think one of my biggest problem with him is that he lies to cover himself. For months, I have been told that classes are going well, he left the house at the appropriate time to get to class and truth be told he never went...ever. Same thing in high school. I would drop him off at the front door and he would leave out the back door. Not to go party with friends but to return to the couch. There are parts of the year he uses pot to cope and other times when he doesn't, it all depends on how big a hole he has dug for himself. He is tested regularly.</p><p></p><p>His therapist states that he has all the tools he needs to be a productive citizen but that he has not had to use them because he is comfortably ensconced on the couch. The boy is extremely intelligent (140+) but socially inept, has aspie traits but doesn't fit criteria. He is not motivated by reward or consequence but accepts both gracefully. He will do what he feels he needs to do without regard for himself or others.</p><p></p><p>He will have the opportunity to return to the house if he secures a job and maintains it as well as clean test. Unfortunately, we can no longer take his word that he "will" or he "did" but need to see action. I am hoping that this will not be a long term situation but more of a kick in the pants to let him see for himself that he can do this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="alongfortheride, post: 253562, member: 3817"] I know that his inability to secure work is directly tied to his dxs but he has had years of support/therapy and medications to help him overcome this and he chooses not to help himself. I think one of my biggest problem with him is that he lies to cover himself. For months, I have been told that classes are going well, he left the house at the appropriate time to get to class and truth be told he never went...ever. Same thing in high school. I would drop him off at the front door and he would leave out the back door. Not to go party with friends but to return to the couch. There are parts of the year he uses pot to cope and other times when he doesn't, it all depends on how big a hole he has dug for himself. He is tested regularly. His therapist states that he has all the tools he needs to be a productive citizen but that he has not had to use them because he is comfortably ensconced on the couch. The boy is extremely intelligent (140+) but socially inept, has aspie traits but doesn't fit criteria. He is not motivated by reward or consequence but accepts both gracefully. He will do what he feels he needs to do without regard for himself or others. He will have the opportunity to return to the house if he secures a job and maintains it as well as clean test. Unfortunately, we can no longer take his word that he "will" or he "did" but need to see action. I am hoping that this will not be a long term situation but more of a kick in the pants to let him see for himself that he can do this. [/QUOTE]
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