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Thank you guys so, much!!! I knew I could count on my cyber family for support. If anyone would like to volunteer to take her for the next two weeks, I will pay child support!!! LOL
I have to say yesterday wasn't THAT bad. There were actually moments in the day she was likeable. It still feels like living in a tornado though. She is just so MUCH. She came home last night around 7 with a bag of hair products and fifty dollars in cash. I don't know how or where she got it and quite frankly I don't care to. She decided to dye her hair cherry red, she dyed my bathroom too. I just put a new shower curtain up and a new bath rug down 3 days ago, needless to say they have lots of cherry red spots on them as do my walls!!!! Here we go again.
I agree with all of you. I am not going to fight her on anything but the household stuff. Like CLEANING up after herself. My bathroom already looks like a subway bathroom!!! We have already hid everything we think she would use or take, our Ipods, my husbands cologne, cameras, jewelry, money and so on.... How sad. But it had to be done. I am just not used to the chaos anymore. I won't be able to be on the computer like I used to be. I cannot let her catch me on this site. She would freak out if she knew I was on here talking about her. I am used to having my down time at night and now that she is here with no medications, she will be up late driving me crazy. Last night I gave her Haldol that I had here from a while back that the doctor gave us to use as a prn. Well until we get medications I will be using it as a sleeping pill. I gave her 5mgs at around 9pm, she didn't fall asleep until around 1am. I swear she has horse blood!!!
My nephew and son, surprisingly were very receptive to her. I warned my son on the way home from school. He was initially disappointed. Then he said : "Mom, you know why I don't like when Brandie (that's her name) is home?" I thought for sure he was going to say that she is mean and violent. He says: "Because she always kisses and hugs me too much!" I was pleasantly surprised by that remark. My nephew didn't seem to care one way or the other. She was nice to them. She spent most of the night reading her letters from her boyfriend. She has a gazzilion of them and some really pretty poems and drawings. He seems to be a smart kid. She wanted me to read some. I did. She was so upset, crying because she is going to miss him. I tried to be supportive. Although I think her being "in love" with a guy she has only known for a few weeks who is in jail is absolutely ridiculous, I didn't want to minimize her feelings. This will last all of 5 minutes anyway. She changes "boos" like she changes hair color!!!
And she acts as if nothing has happened. She wants this and that and has no problem asking for it!!! She wants gold earrings, sneakers, make-up and a cell phone. I don't think so!!! It is just astounding to me that she has the nerve to keep on asking us for stuff after all she has done. It is what I expected though. Classic Brandie!!!
I am trying to stay positive, trying to stay in a good mood. I don't want to allow her the power of ruining my life. I feel badly for the rest of the house as she infringes upon everyone and everything. Just trying to breath and take one minute at a time. I will not question her, badger her or lecture her. Her life is hers to do what she will with it. I have already told my sw that I will not do anything for her. She wants to go to school, get an ID and a job. Her ICM can do that for her. I will not do anymore leg work for her. All I have done for her has only proven to be a waste of my time. Now she is on her own. She can choose to actually utilize her services and get her life together or not. It will be entirely up to her.
Anyway, thanks for all of the support. I am sure I will be needing more shortly!!! I will keep you all posted.
Shawna
I have to say yesterday wasn't THAT bad. There were actually moments in the day she was likeable. It still feels like living in a tornado though. She is just so MUCH. She came home last night around 7 with a bag of hair products and fifty dollars in cash. I don't know how or where she got it and quite frankly I don't care to. She decided to dye her hair cherry red, she dyed my bathroom too. I just put a new shower curtain up and a new bath rug down 3 days ago, needless to say they have lots of cherry red spots on them as do my walls!!!! Here we go again.
I agree with all of you. I am not going to fight her on anything but the household stuff. Like CLEANING up after herself. My bathroom already looks like a subway bathroom!!! We have already hid everything we think she would use or take, our Ipods, my husbands cologne, cameras, jewelry, money and so on.... How sad. But it had to be done. I am just not used to the chaos anymore. I won't be able to be on the computer like I used to be. I cannot let her catch me on this site. She would freak out if she knew I was on here talking about her. I am used to having my down time at night and now that she is here with no medications, she will be up late driving me crazy. Last night I gave her Haldol that I had here from a while back that the doctor gave us to use as a prn. Well until we get medications I will be using it as a sleeping pill. I gave her 5mgs at around 9pm, she didn't fall asleep until around 1am. I swear she has horse blood!!!
My nephew and son, surprisingly were very receptive to her. I warned my son on the way home from school. He was initially disappointed. Then he said : "Mom, you know why I don't like when Brandie (that's her name) is home?" I thought for sure he was going to say that she is mean and violent. He says: "Because she always kisses and hugs me too much!" I was pleasantly surprised by that remark. My nephew didn't seem to care one way or the other. She was nice to them. She spent most of the night reading her letters from her boyfriend. She has a gazzilion of them and some really pretty poems and drawings. He seems to be a smart kid. She wanted me to read some. I did. She was so upset, crying because she is going to miss him. I tried to be supportive. Although I think her being "in love" with a guy she has only known for a few weeks who is in jail is absolutely ridiculous, I didn't want to minimize her feelings. This will last all of 5 minutes anyway. She changes "boos" like she changes hair color!!!
And she acts as if nothing has happened. She wants this and that and has no problem asking for it!!! She wants gold earrings, sneakers, make-up and a cell phone. I don't think so!!! It is just astounding to me that she has the nerve to keep on asking us for stuff after all she has done. It is what I expected though. Classic Brandie!!!
I am trying to stay positive, trying to stay in a good mood. I don't want to allow her the power of ruining my life. I feel badly for the rest of the house as she infringes upon everyone and everything. Just trying to breath and take one minute at a time. I will not question her, badger her or lecture her. Her life is hers to do what she will with it. I have already told my sw that I will not do anything for her. She wants to go to school, get an ID and a job. Her ICM can do that for her. I will not do anymore leg work for her. All I have done for her has only proven to be a waste of my time. Now she is on her own. She can choose to actually utilize her services and get her life together or not. It will be entirely up to her.
Anyway, thanks for all of the support. I am sure I will be needing more shortly!!! I will keep you all posted.
Shawna
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