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She's road tripping with a suicidal friend??
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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 520070" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>WNC Gal</p><p></p><p>There are moments when "confidences" need to be brought to the light. Although one has to be very careful when doing it, especially if you don't want to reveal your source. (in this case it might be best not to since the sources is her ex) My kids never got away with much because dear ol' Mom just plain has too many such sources, and none hesitate to call me when they're concerned. As adults, my kids still have no clue who most of my sources are. Although they are finally understanding this is a small town, my sources are just as likely to be a total stranger as someone I know depending. </p><p></p><p>I'd express concerns over the trip with this boy. difficult child may feel she's "helping" him, and you know how us females can be about that sort of thing. Helping can be good, BUT going on a road trip with someone who is obviously mentally unstable is NOT a wise decision. And yeah, you're probably going to have to reveal you have some knowledge of the situation. (I'd leave the "source" wide open and not tell her who it was, could be a concerned friend from school.......whatever) But if nothing else, I'd be stressing the, Honey what are you going to do should he become so unstable as to need admitted and there YOU are stuck in Florida with no way home?? (and I'd stress the NO WAY HOME, because I"d not rescue her from her own decision)</p><p></p><p>At 18, there is legally not a darn thing you can do to stop her. About all you can do is point out the many faults to this trip and how it could possibly go wrong in so many ways with her left holding the bag, so to speak. </p><p></p><p>Then it's up to her. Unfortunately 18 yr olds make foolish decisions, even ones that are stable and have been for a while. That she wants to help her friend is normal. What she doesn't understand is that she does not have the experience or the training to help her friend properly. If he slipped over the edge on such a trip and committed suicide she would forever blame herself. </p><p></p><p>Mostly? I stay out of my grown kids business. They have to make mistakes the same way I did. The only time I open my mouth? Is when they're in danger, either personal or of messing up their life to the point that repair might not be possible. After I've said what I have to say.......well, then it's up to them. </p><p></p><p>As the parent of grown children we take on an advisory role, which we don't really get to use often if we're smart. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 520070, member: 84"] WNC Gal There are moments when "confidences" need to be brought to the light. Although one has to be very careful when doing it, especially if you don't want to reveal your source. (in this case it might be best not to since the sources is her ex) My kids never got away with much because dear ol' Mom just plain has too many such sources, and none hesitate to call me when they're concerned. As adults, my kids still have no clue who most of my sources are. Although they are finally understanding this is a small town, my sources are just as likely to be a total stranger as someone I know depending. I'd express concerns over the trip with this boy. difficult child may feel she's "helping" him, and you know how us females can be about that sort of thing. Helping can be good, BUT going on a road trip with someone who is obviously mentally unstable is NOT a wise decision. And yeah, you're probably going to have to reveal you have some knowledge of the situation. (I'd leave the "source" wide open and not tell her who it was, could be a concerned friend from school.......whatever) But if nothing else, I'd be stressing the, Honey what are you going to do should he become so unstable as to need admitted and there YOU are stuck in Florida with no way home?? (and I'd stress the NO WAY HOME, because I"d not rescue her from her own decision) At 18, there is legally not a darn thing you can do to stop her. About all you can do is point out the many faults to this trip and how it could possibly go wrong in so many ways with her left holding the bag, so to speak. Then it's up to her. Unfortunately 18 yr olds make foolish decisions, even ones that are stable and have been for a while. That she wants to help her friend is normal. What she doesn't understand is that she does not have the experience or the training to help her friend properly. If he slipped over the edge on such a trip and committed suicide she would forever blame herself. Mostly? I stay out of my grown kids business. They have to make mistakes the same way I did. The only time I open my mouth? Is when they're in danger, either personal or of messing up their life to the point that repair might not be possible. After I've said what I have to say.......well, then it's up to them. As the parent of grown children we take on an advisory role, which we don't really get to use often if we're smart. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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