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She's road tripping with a suicidal friend??
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<blockquote data-quote="Tiapet" data-source="post: 520118" data-attributes="member: 455"><p>I have been placed in a very similiar situation many times with my 20 yo difficult child/easy child. Fortunately we are close enough that she tells me things like this on her own "most" often. Sometimes not so. She will come to me seeking advise for friends in situations like this and your situation sounds exactly like one that is happening now with a friend of hers (if your daughter wasn't 18 I'd wonder if it was yours since the locale is right).</p><p></p><p>My advise to her and would be to anyone would be is to tell. When it's dangerous that is always my advise. I don't care if my daughter gets mad at me but I know in the long run if I have protected her or potentially saved her life (and in one case I did), then I know I've done the right thing.</p><p></p><p>You don't have to reveal your source. I know that might be hard depending on your daughter because some will put pressure on your or be smart enough to figure it out. If you can go to the boys parents, even better.</p><p></p><p>The one thing I do have going for me, and I don't know if you do, is that my daughter lives under my roof. There are certain rules she must follow even as an adult. Additionally, if what ever she is doing (or undertaking) is somehow going to or might involve me in some way, I have some say in it. </p><p></p><p>Another thing I have learned from experience is that "family friend" can say all the right things but you don't always <em>really</em> know of whom you are speaking to on the telephone. Do you really know that you can trust this person and what may or may not be going on?</p><p></p><p>For me, in your post, I saw enough red flags that I would definitely be trying to find a way to eagerly pursuade her not to go and confront daughter about what's going on. If she was trying to distance herself from him she's already apparently sucked in to far that she's agreed to go on this trip. by the way, just why is he an ex to begin with??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiapet, post: 520118, member: 455"] I have been placed in a very similiar situation many times with my 20 yo difficult child/easy child. Fortunately we are close enough that she tells me things like this on her own "most" often. Sometimes not so. She will come to me seeking advise for friends in situations like this and your situation sounds exactly like one that is happening now with a friend of hers (if your daughter wasn't 18 I'd wonder if it was yours since the locale is right). My advise to her and would be to anyone would be is to tell. When it's dangerous that is always my advise. I don't care if my daughter gets mad at me but I know in the long run if I have protected her or potentially saved her life (and in one case I did), then I know I've done the right thing. You don't have to reveal your source. I know that might be hard depending on your daughter because some will put pressure on your or be smart enough to figure it out. If you can go to the boys parents, even better. The one thing I do have going for me, and I don't know if you do, is that my daughter lives under my roof. There are certain rules she must follow even as an adult. Additionally, if what ever she is doing (or undertaking) is somehow going to or might involve me in some way, I have some say in it. Another thing I have learned from experience is that "family friend" can say all the right things but you don't always [I]really[/I] know of whom you are speaking to on the telephone. Do you really know that you can trust this person and what may or may not be going on? For me, in your post, I saw enough red flags that I would definitely be trying to find a way to eagerly pursuade her not to go and confront daughter about what's going on. If she was trying to distance herself from him she's already apparently sucked in to far that she's agreed to go on this trip. by the way, just why is he an ex to begin with?? [/QUOTE]
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