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<blockquote data-quote="lmf64" data-source="post: 317883" data-attributes="member: 7736"><p>I've always kept as much as possible from others all along. In the last six months or so I've gotten where I'll talk to people who have difficult children about my experiences. Then today I was talking to my cousin on facebook. She works for an assisted living place for developmental disabilities and I meant to just pick her brain for future reference, but wrote her a very long message detailing a lot of the things that have been on my mind with difficult child lately. I don't know why, but I just unloaded. Yes, she knows that difficult child has issues but I don't know if she even knows his full list of diagnosis. I don't think she's ever seen difficult child having a meltdown, but can't swear to it because difficult child and my parents have gone to her parents vacation place when she was there. I haven't heard back from her yet, so I don't know what her reaction was yet. I love her and her entire family dearly, but we aren't really close. They've always lived a few hundred miles away so we haven't spent much time together and honestly I don't think we've ever spent any time one on one as she's 12 years younger than I am. I hope I don't get well meaning messages from family telling me how to make difficult child better. </p><p>I have one aunt who has seen difficult child in action many times, but she thinks he's just fine. She always has something to say about how I should do xxx and he'll get over it. Right now I'm unemployed and living in a very rural area. Things are really tight, heck they're so far beyond tight that the rubber band has snapped already. Anyway, she is trying to get me to move up to her place with difficult child. It's about 100 miles from where we live to where she lives. Her thought is I would have better luck finding a job in a more urban area, which is true, but then I wouldn't be able to keep it for long since difficult child would lose all the supports I've worked so long and so hard to get in his life. Pulling the rug out from under him would be guaranteeing he would wind up institutionalized in one way or another in the future. </p><p>Sorry for highjacking your post Steely, but I wanted to say yes I agree it's great that we have this place to go when we need compassionate support and sad that for most of us we don't have the same support in real life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lmf64, post: 317883, member: 7736"] I've always kept as much as possible from others all along. In the last six months or so I've gotten where I'll talk to people who have difficult children about my experiences. Then today I was talking to my cousin on facebook. She works for an assisted living place for developmental disabilities and I meant to just pick her brain for future reference, but wrote her a very long message detailing a lot of the things that have been on my mind with difficult child lately. I don't know why, but I just unloaded. Yes, she knows that difficult child has issues but I don't know if she even knows his full list of diagnosis. I don't think she's ever seen difficult child having a meltdown, but can't swear to it because difficult child and my parents have gone to her parents vacation place when she was there. I haven't heard back from her yet, so I don't know what her reaction was yet. I love her and her entire family dearly, but we aren't really close. They've always lived a few hundred miles away so we haven't spent much time together and honestly I don't think we've ever spent any time one on one as she's 12 years younger than I am. I hope I don't get well meaning messages from family telling me how to make difficult child better. I have one aunt who has seen difficult child in action many times, but she thinks he's just fine. She always has something to say about how I should do xxx and he'll get over it. Right now I'm unemployed and living in a very rural area. Things are really tight, heck they're so far beyond tight that the rubber band has snapped already. Anyway, she is trying to get me to move up to her place with difficult child. It's about 100 miles from where we live to where she lives. Her thought is I would have better luck finding a job in a more urban area, which is true, but then I wouldn't be able to keep it for long since difficult child would lose all the supports I've worked so long and so hard to get in his life. Pulling the rug out from under him would be guaranteeing he would wind up institutionalized in one way or another in the future. Sorry for highjacking your post Steely, but I wanted to say yes I agree it's great that we have this place to go when we need compassionate support and sad that for most of us we don't have the same support in real life. [/QUOTE]
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