http://www.heartrelationships.com/when-your-grown-kids-reject-you/ This part is so powerful and applies to my son-who-left-family. There is more to the article, but this is the part that struck me. I never thought of estrangement this way. I had long ago accepted that it could be forever, but never occurred to me that the grown child may just not a relationship with us once they reach adulthood. Food for thought, at least for me. "It’s very hard to accept that there may be nothing you can do to repair the relationship between you and your adult child, but it sometimes happens that your child needs to reject you no matter what you say or do. Not every child wants an adult relationship with his or her parents. If that happens to you, make sure your life has meaning and purpose apart from your role as a parent."