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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 494652" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>OK - I will say it. </p><p></p><p>And this behavior surprises you? Stop expecting more than you are ever going to get from your difficult child. Seriously, your life will get soooo much easier and happier if you just stop expecting difficult child to do X, Y or Z. </p><p></p><p>I have said this many times on the site. My eye opener was when my difficult child looked at me and said, "Why are you always trying to change me. I like who I am the way I am." Well - I certainly was not trying to change her or turn her into something she was not. I was just trying to parent her and help her be the best she could be. </p><p></p><p>NOT!! </p><p></p><p>I was trying to change her. I was trying to make her into what I thought she should be. That was when I picked up on the non-parenting technique and my life improved since then. And so did my difficult child. It was not instantaneous of course, but she was a better kid without parenting. I had no idea it would work, but it did. I never imagined that one as I dreamed of having children - for sure. </p><p>She was about your difficult children age when I started it. </p><p></p><p>Today I get no smart mouth responses, no annoying looks or eye rolls, she works full time, has her own apartment, pays her bills on time. I could not ask for more. </p><p></p><p>OK - I could, but I will not. And she is happy so that is all that matters.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 494652, member: 391"] OK - I will say it. And this behavior surprises you? Stop expecting more than you are ever going to get from your difficult child. Seriously, your life will get soooo much easier and happier if you just stop expecting difficult child to do X, Y or Z. I have said this many times on the site. My eye opener was when my difficult child looked at me and said, "Why are you always trying to change me. I like who I am the way I am." Well - I certainly was not trying to change her or turn her into something she was not. I was just trying to parent her and help her be the best she could be. NOT!! I was trying to change her. I was trying to make her into what I thought she should be. That was when I picked up on the non-parenting technique and my life improved since then. And so did my difficult child. It was not instantaneous of course, but she was a better kid without parenting. I had no idea it would work, but it did. I never imagined that one as I dreamed of having children - for sure. She was about your difficult children age when I started it. Today I get no smart mouth responses, no annoying looks or eye rolls, she works full time, has her own apartment, pays her bills on time. I could not ask for more. OK - I could, but I will not. And she is happy so that is all that matters. [/QUOTE]
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