It's been at least three years, and he has dumped all of us, most likely because of a combo of his wife's urging, little tiffs we've had since he started to change (he claims he's still hurt and won't work it out) and his extremist religion (let's just say I've never heard of a church that is as extreme as his--it borders of cultism and tries to pass as the only true Christian church. The others are all shams--you know how it goes. I don't think reconciliation will ever happen. We adopted him at six and he obviously didn't bond the way children normally do. The family has moved on--it would be hard to be with him even if we tried. His wife makes all of us uncomfortable, and he is glued to her hip. And his religion is very judgmental and he enforces it on everybody. But he's my son and I still love him. His father has stated he is not sending him a card or contacting him since son has cut off communications with him. He is disinheriting him too, no big deal to son who has made tons of money on his own, but it does make a statement. I half feel I should do it because I don't watch to be a b*tch, not that he'll appreciate how hard it was for me to shop for a card for him and to mail it. He won't acknowledge it or call me or answer the phone if I call him so this would NOT be a step toward a reconciliation. There is no chance of that. I will probably never see him again. What do you think? I am leaning towards a friendly, not mushy card and just signing it Love, Mom (without my hub or my still-at-home children's names).