Im a Believer
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Hi ~ I am a licensed childcare provider.
I had a child in my care (female age 5) - I have had this child all her life (she started in my home when she was 6 weeks).
She always has had aggressive behaviour problems but I chalked it up to being an only child with older parents. (Her dad is now 50)
I would say I always witnessed more parental abuse than child abuse - she kicked and hit her parents - yelled at them - they laugh - yes - she is only 5!
About 3 weeks ago - another child in my home came up and said she choked him. I really didn;t visualize in my mind what had happened but I called the parents and told them. They were very responsive and they said they would "talk to her about it".
Last week - I was making lunch - heard this same little boy scream - went to look and this little girl was behind him with both hands around his neck choking him ~ I called her name - she dropped her hands and he was coughing.
I still replay this in my mind like I couldn't believe what I was seeing.
I called the parents and again they were very responsive and seemed to show some concern.
I called my Resource Specialist with the state and she suggested I write this up and have the parents sign it.
I sent it home with them Friday and told them to return it Monday with the child.
They brought it back but were VERY cold to me and told me they are going to look for alternative care - they do not believe she did this - although they signed my form (Thank God!).
Monday I talked with the little girl and asked her where she had seen this before and she told me her parents and her were playing a game in the basement and it scared her. I asked her what kind of a game and she told me a WII game.
As she was telling me she was VERY aggitated and was moving her little hands.
When her dad came I shared what she had told me and he said I was nuts. I had a termination form ready for them and reimbursed their unused daycare fee.
He has sent me some horrible e-mails. How I can't handle children and she a normal child and just being a kid.
I really don't know what to do - I am not seeing this clearly - partly due to shock and partly due to the emotions involved.
Looking back over the years - I can see issues with this child ~ She use to hide her feces when she was being potty trained.
I would never guess this of the parents ~ They were always so doting on her and actually over permissive.
You are all probably shaking your heads seeing everything so clearly - I am trying to work thru my own denial.
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thank You!
I had a child in my care (female age 5) - I have had this child all her life (she started in my home when she was 6 weeks).
She always has had aggressive behaviour problems but I chalked it up to being an only child with older parents. (Her dad is now 50)
I would say I always witnessed more parental abuse than child abuse - she kicked and hit her parents - yelled at them - they laugh - yes - she is only 5!
About 3 weeks ago - another child in my home came up and said she choked him. I really didn;t visualize in my mind what had happened but I called the parents and told them. They were very responsive and they said they would "talk to her about it".
Last week - I was making lunch - heard this same little boy scream - went to look and this little girl was behind him with both hands around his neck choking him ~ I called her name - she dropped her hands and he was coughing.
I still replay this in my mind like I couldn't believe what I was seeing.
I called the parents and again they were very responsive and seemed to show some concern.
I called my Resource Specialist with the state and she suggested I write this up and have the parents sign it.
I sent it home with them Friday and told them to return it Monday with the child.
They brought it back but were VERY cold to me and told me they are going to look for alternative care - they do not believe she did this - although they signed my form (Thank God!).
Monday I talked with the little girl and asked her where she had seen this before and she told me her parents and her were playing a game in the basement and it scared her. I asked her what kind of a game and she told me a WII game.
As she was telling me she was VERY aggitated and was moving her little hands.
When her dad came I shared what she had told me and he said I was nuts. I had a termination form ready for them and reimbursed their unused daycare fee.
He has sent me some horrible e-mails. How I can't handle children and she a normal child and just being a kid.
I really don't know what to do - I am not seeing this clearly - partly due to shock and partly due to the emotions involved.
Looking back over the years - I can see issues with this child ~ She use to hide her feces when she was being potty trained.
I would never guess this of the parents ~ They were always so doting on her and actually over permissive.
You are all probably shaking your heads seeing everything so clearly - I am trying to work thru my own denial.
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated!
Thank You!