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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 643593" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>Hello "A Dad", welcome to the forum. I hear what you are saying. I understand the guilt and hypocrisy you are fighting against, with in yourself and until you make that right, you can't even begin to deal with your sons issues. I get it, I really get it. I don't have a lot of time, but I will offer what I can, and then get back later when I do have the time.</p><p></p><p>I am a true believer in Karma. I do believe we have to live out our own Karma, when Karma says so and for how long Karma says so. I think you might feel the same way. I believe the only way it can end sooner is if we make right what we did wrong in the past. But first, you must figure out if it was even wrong. Was it really wrong that you were waiting (even if you knew it or not) to find a reason to really live which was your lovely wife who you must adore? I don't think so, but maybe it is. Is it wrong not to become your own man before 27? Yes, in a way. It depends. I really don't remember if you made your parents life hard or didn't help them around the house. I am going to assume you didn't. Anyway, I think you know where this is going. I think it is so true that we live out what we gave out until will find the lesson, repent for it and then fix it. It's the cycle of life. You need to fix this within yourself first. I get the mountain your up against because if you REALLY address this, it's going to change everything that you ever knew or believed about yourself and about life. I think that is what is holding you back and that's what you don't want to face at the end of the day, not disciplining or going at with your son. You know you can't make your son do anything because you know it goes much deeper than making him do something, so it's pointless. You know this whether you are aware of it or not, its definitely in your subconscious, though, that is for certain.</p><p></p><p>I don't know which way to point you or where to start. All I have is a guess, which is, I think you should have gotten your life together for <em><strong><u>yourself</u></strong></em> and not your wife or anyone else. I think, that's where the problem may lye , but again, I really don't know. I thought really hard about it and that's all I could really come up with. I tried. But you know yourself and your life better than anyone else and since you stated that you are struggling with the hypocrisy and the idea of Karma of it all, maybe seek out some spiritual assistance, seriously, it may help and I hope it does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 643593, member: 18233"] Hello "A Dad", welcome to the forum. I hear what you are saying. I understand the guilt and hypocrisy you are fighting against, with in yourself and until you make that right, you can't even begin to deal with your sons issues. I get it, I really get it. I don't have a lot of time, but I will offer what I can, and then get back later when I do have the time. I am a true believer in Karma. I do believe we have to live out our own Karma, when Karma says so and for how long Karma says so. I think you might feel the same way. I believe the only way it can end sooner is if we make right what we did wrong in the past. But first, you must figure out if it was even wrong. Was it really wrong that you were waiting (even if you knew it or not) to find a reason to really live which was your lovely wife who you must adore? I don't think so, but maybe it is. Is it wrong not to become your own man before 27? Yes, in a way. It depends. I really don't remember if you made your parents life hard or didn't help them around the house. I am going to assume you didn't. Anyway, I think you know where this is going. I think it is so true that we live out what we gave out until will find the lesson, repent for it and then fix it. It's the cycle of life. You need to fix this within yourself first. I get the mountain your up against because if you REALLY address this, it's going to change everything that you ever knew or believed about yourself and about life. I think that is what is holding you back and that's what you don't want to face at the end of the day, not disciplining or going at with your son. You know you can't make your son do anything because you know it goes much deeper than making him do something, so it's pointless. You know this whether you are aware of it or not, its definitely in your subconscious, though, that is for certain. I don't know which way to point you or where to start. All I have is a guess, which is, I think you should have gotten your life together for [I][B][U]yourself[/U][/B][/I] and not your wife or anyone else. I think, that's where the problem may lye , but again, I really don't know. I thought really hard about it and that's all I could really come up with. I tried. But you know yourself and your life better than anyone else and since you stated that you are struggling with the hypocrisy and the idea of Karma of it all, maybe seek out some spiritual assistance, seriously, it may help and I hope it does. [/QUOTE]
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