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<blockquote data-quote="Marcie Mac" data-source="post: 643674" data-attributes="member: 47"><p>I don't believe boys reach a level of emotional maturity till their mid to late 20's, Mine have always had an offer of a roof over their head, and food. No cars, no money given to you to party (in saying that he was known to help himself to my money at times). I have never been a big proponent of tossing kids to the curb to sink or swim - leaving home at 17 myself, going 3,000 miles and having no one, I am just thankful I had a little common sense and the universe was looking out for me. Since the apple didn't fall far from the tree in my case, I thought it best to let him live at home, keep the bs to a minimum (I seem to have a higher tolerance than most for it), and hope I could be of an influence till his emotional and chronological age caught up. I can't really pinpoint when he "got it" - maybe seeing most of his friends were moving on up and having jobs and were not able to party in the day, he was tired of not having money, he realized he really needed a GED after all, rapping was not going to make him rich LOL He went thru a lot of part time jobs along the way to make money here and there, but finally found one that didn't have a "boss" attached to it that he absolutely loves to do (building computers, designing web sites, computer repair - (and he is all self taught) and he was around 27 when all this happened.</p><p></p><p>Both of my boys still live at home - it seems to be the only part of my Italian heritage I didn't reject (being female) but it is really really expensive to live in Los Angeles. Youngest did move out for a year, and came back and has plans to move to San Diego with a friend sometime this summer. </p><p></p><p>Marcie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marcie Mac, post: 643674, member: 47"] I don't believe boys reach a level of emotional maturity till their mid to late 20's, Mine have always had an offer of a roof over their head, and food. No cars, no money given to you to party (in saying that he was known to help himself to my money at times). I have never been a big proponent of tossing kids to the curb to sink or swim - leaving home at 17 myself, going 3,000 miles and having no one, I am just thankful I had a little common sense and the universe was looking out for me. Since the apple didn't fall far from the tree in my case, I thought it best to let him live at home, keep the bs to a minimum (I seem to have a higher tolerance than most for it), and hope I could be of an influence till his emotional and chronological age caught up. I can't really pinpoint when he "got it" - maybe seeing most of his friends were moving on up and having jobs and were not able to party in the day, he was tired of not having money, he realized he really needed a GED after all, rapping was not going to make him rich LOL He went thru a lot of part time jobs along the way to make money here and there, but finally found one that didn't have a "boss" attached to it that he absolutely loves to do (building computers, designing web sites, computer repair - (and he is all self taught) and he was around 27 when all this happened. Both of my boys still live at home - it seems to be the only part of my Italian heritage I didn't reject (being female) but it is really really expensive to live in Los Angeles. Youngest did move out for a year, and came back and has plans to move to San Diego with a friend sometime this summer. Marcie [/QUOTE]
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