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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 643742" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I'm silly very goofy at 61.</p><p></p><p>Goofy doesn't mean immaturity.</p><p></p><p>I personally am used to U.S. norms and would be mortified if my kids were still at home. After all, we can't live forever and then they are on their own. they need to be prepared.</p><p></p><p>But you have to take your culture into account. Here, it is not socially acceptable really for grown kids to live with Dad or Mom too long. Women may laugh at the idea of a ,say 24 year old living off Dad and Mom and not date the homebound adult (at least responsibility women). I can't imagine allowing anyone over 22, and that 22 year old would have to be working full time and paying rent, to live at home. But I live by the norms in the United States and very much find pride in personal independence. All of my kids are out on their own and doing well. Only my eighteen year old, who is in college, is in any way dependent on us financially.</p><p></p><p>I am very proud of my adult children. They can stand on their own. You don't have to be at full maturity to be able to reach toward independence and not ask your parents to support you.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow, good luck, whatever you decide is ok <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Not knowing where you live, and, like most Americans, knowing very little about cultures in Italy or Greece or anywhere outside of North America, I don't really know what you mean by laid-back. I do know that some countries governments will pay you stipends for kids at home or kids in college. We don't get money here so unless one is rich, which most of us are not, it is important for our over eighteens to get ready to support themselves.</p><p></p><p>We also get little in retirement from the government so many of us have to save our pennies for when we do retire. Not everyone has been able to save, has a pension, or anything more than the small social security we get after retirement at age sixty-six. And, trust me, most of our grown kids do not come home to take care of us in our old age. Some do by choice, but it is not considered a bad thing if you do not or can not. Often our grown kids live very far from us, since our country is so big.</p><p></p><p>In the U.S., we really do have to stand on our own two feet. And all of my kids are doing that for which I am grateful.If your culture/country is different then you think about your options that YOU have and do what makes sense in YOUR circumstances.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 643742, member: 1550"] I'm silly very goofy at 61. Goofy doesn't mean immaturity. I personally am used to U.S. norms and would be mortified if my kids were still at home. After all, we can't live forever and then they are on their own. they need to be prepared. But you have to take your culture into account. Here, it is not socially acceptable really for grown kids to live with Dad or Mom too long. Women may laugh at the idea of a ,say 24 year old living off Dad and Mom and not date the homebound adult (at least responsibility women). I can't imagine allowing anyone over 22, and that 22 year old would have to be working full time and paying rent, to live at home. But I live by the norms in the United States and very much find pride in personal independence. All of my kids are out on their own and doing well. Only my eighteen year old, who is in college, is in any way dependent on us financially. I am very proud of my adult children. They can stand on their own. You don't have to be at full maturity to be able to reach toward independence and not ask your parents to support you. Anyhow, good luck, whatever you decide is ok :) Not knowing where you live, and, like most Americans, knowing very little about cultures in Italy or Greece or anywhere outside of North America, I don't really know what you mean by laid-back. I do know that some countries governments will pay you stipends for kids at home or kids in college. We don't get money here so unless one is rich, which most of us are not, it is important for our over eighteens to get ready to support themselves. We also get little in retirement from the government so many of us have to save our pennies for when we do retire. Not everyone has been able to save, has a pension, or anything more than the small social security we get after retirement at age sixty-six. And, trust me, most of our grown kids do not come home to take care of us in our old age. Some do by choice, but it is not considered a bad thing if you do not or can not. Often our grown kids live very far from us, since our country is so big. In the U.S., we really do have to stand on our own two feet. And all of my kids are doing that for which I am grateful.If your culture/country is different then you think about your options that YOU have and do what makes sense in YOUR circumstances. [/QUOTE]
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