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Should I get 18 year old out of jail?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 764993" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>He is the one who has to come to his own rescue. But more importantly, he needs to care enough about himself to NOT commit crimes and make other disastrous decisions. The only way to change that is LEARNING due to aversive consequences. If he feels and knows that the help comes from YOU he won't change.</p><p></p><p>Finally, jail does not kill people. It's living badly that does. Many of the inmates I worked with didn't mind jail. They got healthy. They read. They chatted. They worked out.</p><p></p><p>Me too. The only remedy to this is distance.</p><p></p><p>Boundaries are the thing here. But this means external boundaries. like limits on answering the phone, etc. but also internal boundaries. Internal boundaries take time to build. They come from the belief and the certainty that you can operate from inside of you., located in you. It is a practice and needs time to achieve by operating from our thoughts, true wants and needs. Not from pressure, manipulation, impulses.</p><p></p><p>I think being an identical twin makes it harder. But that's a complex topic.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 764993, member: 18958"] He is the one who has to come to his own rescue. But more importantly, he needs to care enough about himself to NOT commit crimes and make other disastrous decisions. The only way to change that is LEARNING due to aversive consequences. If he feels and knows that the help comes from YOU he won't change. Finally, jail does not kill people. It's living badly that does. Many of the inmates I worked with didn't mind jail. They got healthy. They read. They chatted. They worked out. Me too. The only remedy to this is distance. Boundaries are the thing here. But this means external boundaries. like limits on answering the phone, etc. but also internal boundaries. Internal boundaries take time to build. They come from the belief and the certainty that you can operate from inside of you., located in you. It is a practice and needs time to achieve by operating from our thoughts, true wants and needs. Not from pressure, manipulation, impulses. I think being an identical twin makes it harder. But that's a complex topic. [/QUOTE]
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