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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 357766" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I have not read all the responses, so if I repeat something or contradict someone I am sorry.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child, Wiz, also has Aspergers, ADHD and sensory integration disorder. One hospital added Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) simply because his interests were so overwhelming at the time. Not sure if it is still considered one of his diagnosis's or not. He is 18 but has not lived with us for over 4 years. </p><p></p><p>I know your situation and your fears so very well. We went and tried the mood stabilizers thinking Wiz might be bipolar but they never worked at all. Wiz eventually ended up on luvox, strattera, and trazodone. They are each a different kind of antidepressant. Luvox is a SSRI, our pharmacist calls it supercharged prozac. Strattera works well for his ADHD and is a SNRI medication similar to the luvox. The trazodone helps him sleep and is a tricyclic a/d.</p><p></p><p>Our kids need the right medications, and the hospital may be the best way to get him stabilized. However, unless he is willing to work on changing his behavior none of the medications of any kind will help him. They may change how he feels enough to let him WANT to change, enough to make him ABLE to change. But that is about all they can do. With my son, removing any of these medications results in a slip back into depression and not caring. IF they are removed for more than a few days he becomes suicidal again. Luckily he LIKES how he feels when he is on his medications. He doesn't fight taking them or cheek them. He also does not drink alcohol or try illegal drugs as I impressed that these would likely kill him when he was little. For some reason that lesson stuck. LOTS of things didn't, and for a long time I was scared he would end up on drugs or an alcoholic like my gfgbro. Wiz saw enough of the awful side of my bro and how he changed when he became sober to want to skip all of that (My bro abused him when he was about 8 and it left a huge impression.)</p><p></p><p>What does your doctor say when you tell him how violent your son is and how scared you are of him? How scared your daughter is of him? If he is not responsive then you may need another doctor. I would call to see what your insurance covers and if your doctor will put your son in the hospital to find medications that work. If doctor won't? Do as was suggested re: calling 911 for transport to the hospital. It may help your doctor to really "see" the problems if you take video of your son while he is raging. Many cell phones can do this - I would try that if you can.</p><p></p><p>Most of our kids do pretty well in the hospital. They seem to like the structure and order of the hospital. My son says it was rather reassuring to know that he would not be able to hurt anyone no matter how out of control he got with a rage. At the time he could not communicate this but he did say it a couple of years ago. </p><p></p><p>FWIW, after I made him leave home and my parents had him live with them, somehow something got through and he is now a good big brother that both of my kids feel safe with, and he is a very loving son to us. He still lives with my parents and seems to be doing very well. I hope this gives you some hope. When he was 8 I wasn't sure we would all survive until he was 19, much less grow to like each other!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 357766, member: 1233"] I have not read all the responses, so if I repeat something or contradict someone I am sorry. My difficult child, Wiz, also has Aspergers, ADHD and sensory integration disorder. One hospital added Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) simply because his interests were so overwhelming at the time. Not sure if it is still considered one of his diagnosis's or not. He is 18 but has not lived with us for over 4 years. I know your situation and your fears so very well. We went and tried the mood stabilizers thinking Wiz might be bipolar but they never worked at all. Wiz eventually ended up on luvox, strattera, and trazodone. They are each a different kind of antidepressant. Luvox is a SSRI, our pharmacist calls it supercharged prozac. Strattera works well for his ADHD and is a SNRI medication similar to the luvox. The trazodone helps him sleep and is a tricyclic a/d. Our kids need the right medications, and the hospital may be the best way to get him stabilized. However, unless he is willing to work on changing his behavior none of the medications of any kind will help him. They may change how he feels enough to let him WANT to change, enough to make him ABLE to change. But that is about all they can do. With my son, removing any of these medications results in a slip back into depression and not caring. IF they are removed for more than a few days he becomes suicidal again. Luckily he LIKES how he feels when he is on his medications. He doesn't fight taking them or cheek them. He also does not drink alcohol or try illegal drugs as I impressed that these would likely kill him when he was little. For some reason that lesson stuck. LOTS of things didn't, and for a long time I was scared he would end up on drugs or an alcoholic like my gfgbro. Wiz saw enough of the awful side of my bro and how he changed when he became sober to want to skip all of that (My bro abused him when he was about 8 and it left a huge impression.) What does your doctor say when you tell him how violent your son is and how scared you are of him? How scared your daughter is of him? If he is not responsive then you may need another doctor. I would call to see what your insurance covers and if your doctor will put your son in the hospital to find medications that work. If doctor won't? Do as was suggested re: calling 911 for transport to the hospital. It may help your doctor to really "see" the problems if you take video of your son while he is raging. Many cell phones can do this - I would try that if you can. Most of our kids do pretty well in the hospital. They seem to like the structure and order of the hospital. My son says it was rather reassuring to know that he would not be able to hurt anyone no matter how out of control he got with a rage. At the time he could not communicate this but he did say it a couple of years ago. FWIW, after I made him leave home and my parents had him live with them, somehow something got through and he is now a good big brother that both of my kids feel safe with, and he is a very loving son to us. He still lives with my parents and seems to be doing very well. I hope this gives you some hope. When he was 8 I wasn't sure we would all survive until he was 19, much less grow to like each other! [/QUOTE]
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