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Should I send a birthday gift to grandchild I've never met? Opinions.
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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 350698" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>I'm not clear if I remember this correctly or not, so if I get it wrong, you'll have to take that into consideration. What I recall is that you have gone through this several times with birthdays and Christmas' over the past few years, and that at least once you went ahead and sent something and either response you got, or the lack of response, left you unhappy. </p><p></p><p> If they object to celebrating birthdays and holidays it would be insulting to them to send anything. If you really want to do it, send them a card and something small, like clothing. You don't know them well enough to pick out a toy or a book. Money is too impersonal. Whatever it is, send it for yourself, not for them. They aren't likely to give you the reaction you want, so you should have no expectations as to how they should feel about the gift. You should prepare yourself to have them send it back, as well. If none of that bothers you, go ahead. Otherwise, perhaps a card should suffice, but don't expect any reaction to the card that is going to satisfy some need in you.</p><p></p><p>I realize that they are your family, but honestly, from the other point of view, I cringe and get angry when my mother sends me birthday and Christmas cards. It doesn't ring true and feels more like a stab in the back than a greeting. They're full of false sentiment and don't even make it into the house.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 350698, member: 99"] I'm not clear if I remember this correctly or not, so if I get it wrong, you'll have to take that into consideration. What I recall is that you have gone through this several times with birthdays and Christmas' over the past few years, and that at least once you went ahead and sent something and either response you got, or the lack of response, left you unhappy. If they object to celebrating birthdays and holidays it would be insulting to them to send anything. If you really want to do it, send them a card and something small, like clothing. You don't know them well enough to pick out a toy or a book. Money is too impersonal. Whatever it is, send it for yourself, not for them. They aren't likely to give you the reaction you want, so you should have no expectations as to how they should feel about the gift. You should prepare yourself to have them send it back, as well. If none of that bothers you, go ahead. Otherwise, perhaps a card should suffice, but don't expect any reaction to the card that is going to satisfy some need in you. I realize that they are your family, but honestly, from the other point of view, I cringe and get angry when my mother sends me birthday and Christmas cards. It doesn't ring true and feels more like a stab in the back than a greeting. They're full of false sentiment and don't even make it into the house. [/QUOTE]
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