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Should I send a birthday gift to grandchild I've never met? Opinions.
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 350735" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Really examine why you feel you need to do this. Who is this for? Is it for you, so you know you haven't let any grandchild out? In which case, give your ex some money or a gift that ex can give to the baby in his name only. YOU will know you gave something and your grandchild will get the benefit. It doesn't matter if nobody else knows.</p><p></p><p>Or are you wanting the child to know, and your son, that YOU want to love this new grandchild? In which case, expect that desire to be blocked and rejected. It would not be good for the child in this case, to become an unwitting tool in his father's hands, to continue to hurt you with. Even sending a simple card can lead to ongoing anger and hurt, with your grandchild caught in the middle and wondering (later on - and he WOULD be exposed to enough garbage to wonder) why his mail is monitored, why some people are permitted access and others are not... no, from what you have said of your son, I would stay out of this.</p><p></p><p>What you could do, is write letters to your grandchild, but don't post them. Keep them. If the door is ever opened further down the track, you have your record of what you wanted to say.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 350735, member: 1991"] Really examine why you feel you need to do this. Who is this for? Is it for you, so you know you haven't let any grandchild out? In which case, give your ex some money or a gift that ex can give to the baby in his name only. YOU will know you gave something and your grandchild will get the benefit. It doesn't matter if nobody else knows. Or are you wanting the child to know, and your son, that YOU want to love this new grandchild? In which case, expect that desire to be blocked and rejected. It would not be good for the child in this case, to become an unwitting tool in his father's hands, to continue to hurt you with. Even sending a simple card can lead to ongoing anger and hurt, with your grandchild caught in the middle and wondering (later on - and he WOULD be exposed to enough garbage to wonder) why his mail is monitored, why some people are permitted access and others are not... no, from what you have said of your son, I would stay out of this. What you could do, is write letters to your grandchild, but don't post them. Keep them. If the door is ever opened further down the track, you have your record of what you wanted to say. Marg [/QUOTE]
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