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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 71337" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I actually feel that choosing to make him deal with living alone would have helped him more. Not been more comfortable for him, but better for him. JMO The number 18 is nothing more than he is a day older than he was before and, if he screws up, its on his record. I go more by the maturity of the child. All my kids, even my daughter, were independent early, and in my opinion it was for the good, especially for my daughter. She was too busy working and surviving and learning how to budget to continue her destructive lifestyle, and the brother that she was living with wouldn't even tolerate cigarette smoking. She knew he meant business and did not screw up. It's important that difficult child's believe we mean business or they won't comply. in my opinion your son is being agreeable now because he just got home and he wants you to trust him so he can do his worst. Not a positive approach, but in my opinion it's realistic--moreso than to believe he changed just because he went into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). He has to know you'll follow through and play hardball or he has no incentive to change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 71337, member: 1550"] I actually feel that choosing to make him deal with living alone would have helped him more. Not been more comfortable for him, but better for him. JMO The number 18 is nothing more than he is a day older than he was before and, if he screws up, its on his record. I go more by the maturity of the child. All my kids, even my daughter, were independent early, and in my opinion it was for the good, especially for my daughter. She was too busy working and surviving and learning how to budget to continue her destructive lifestyle, and the brother that she was living with wouldn't even tolerate cigarette smoking. She knew he meant business and did not screw up. It's important that difficult child's believe we mean business or they won't comply. in my opinion your son is being agreeable now because he just got home and he wants you to trust him so he can do his worst. Not a positive approach, but in my opinion it's realistic--moreso than to believe he changed just because he went into an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). He has to know you'll follow through and play hardball or he has no incentive to change. [/QUOTE]
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